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faithinthesound Tue 28-Mar-17 00:54:41

Tertiary level. I'm an adult. She's teaching me.

I am never the only one talking, but I am the one she singles out to reprimand, every single time. No, I shouldn't be talking when she's asking us for her attention, I'll own that, but as I said, I'm hardly the only one. Yet it's always me she singles out, never any of the other offenders. It's always me she scolds - in front of everyone else in the class. I've never seen or heard her reprimand anyone else.

Am I being unreasonable to think she's horrible?

ScarlettFreestone Tue 28-Mar-17 00:59:45

Perhaps you have a carrying voice which she hears over the others.

Or perhaps other people talk less than you think. Or perhaps another student has complained about you.

However if you are giving a presentation or some training I know from personal experience it is deeply irritating to have other people talking.

There is a really easy way to solve this as you know.

Apart from being incredibly rude, as an adult student you are presumably paying for this course, so you are wasting your own time and money as well as everyone else's.

Underbeneathsies Tue 28-Mar-17 01:00:14

Ask for a meting with her and her supervisor. Ask the supervisor first.
Bring notes on when you're reprimanded, and lay it out that you think she's bullying you.

Talk with her supervisor alone if you need to if a meeting with her seems too frightening.

Bullying is rotten and endemic in education as everywhere. You don't have to put up with it. Hope you're ok.

StrawberryJelly00 Tue 28-Mar-17 01:02:02

I agree with Scarlett - this post sounds very childish.

faithinthesound Tue 28-Mar-17 01:02:30

I mean I acknowledge and own that I'm talking when she's trying to get our attention - I shouldn't be, and I know that. I'm not complaining about being reprimanded for it. I'm complaining about ALWAYS being the ONLY one reprimanded for it.

calzone Tue 28-Mar-17 01:04:21

Maybe you are the ringleader.

She shuts you up everyone else might be quiet.

Crispbutty Tue 28-Mar-17 01:06:11

How about you learn not to be so rude then she would have no reason to single you out at all. confused

keeplooking Tue 28-Mar-17 01:09:35

Yes, I do think YABU. If you're an adult, maybe try behaving like one, then there won't be any need for her to reprimand you!

TheSockGoblin Tue 28-Mar-17 01:09:43

Wtf? Why are you bothering to go to an adult class if you won't keep your mouth shut and actually concentrate on what's being taught?

I'd be bloody pissed off if I was in your class and trying to focus while others were talking and then have to put up with people being told off.

You're not 14 anymore. Other people are there because they want to learn.

So shut your mouth, listen and learn..or don't bother going until you're mature enough to respect everyone else in the class.

(YABU by the way)

ScarlettFreestone Tue 28-Mar-17 01:12:48

I'm sorry to be harsh Faith but your post is basically saying

It's not faaaaiiiirrrr!!!!

It's not bullying if you are actually talking.

It's not fair for the other pupils if you are involved in continually disrupting the class either.

As an experiment keep your mouth firmly shut next lesson and see how that works out.

WhereDoesThisRoadGo Tue 28-Mar-17 01:14:45

What a contradiction in terms... I am an adult, yet I get told off for talking. Perhaps show some respect and shut your mouth or leave the class. As an adult student myself, I assure you it is not that difficult.

Grow up. YABVU.

Jeez, the fact you would even put this in AIBU says there is no hope for you.

Jemimapiddleduck Tue 28-Mar-17 01:14:54

Just shut up.

I don't care who is talking but everyone just needs to stop when the teacher is. It's really fucking frustrating for those of us who are trying to listen and who have limited time to study etc.

I can't believe you are so daft as to not realise that all you have to do to stop her singling you out is tooo...(I'll repeat it).... shut up.

You probably have either an annoying voice
or are seen as the ring leader.

Don't worry about what happens to the other offenders it's not your business. You are only accountable for yourself.

CaseyAtTheBat Tue 28-Mar-17 01:15:32

You could just stop talking in class. Problem solved.

PerspicaciaTick Tue 28-Mar-17 01:18:51

Stop talking in class.

Don't bother owning it. Don't bother putting your hands up to being wrong. Just shut the fuck up.

keeplooking Tue 28-Mar-17 01:18:57 grin

VimFuego101 Tue 28-Mar-17 01:21:34

You say you know you shouldn't be talking... so why do you continue to do it? Are you trying to clarify something or help someone?

Foureyesarebetterthantwo Tue 28-Mar-17 01:23:52

Stop talking! It really is that simple.

I don't lecture when students are talking, I just stop and wait.

I would be very annoyed if it happened repeatedly.

The fact she singles it out means you probably do it the most/are the most obvious- so stop!

If someone came with a bullying complaint to me and it was revealed they felt picked on for being asked to stop talking in an adult education class, whatever happened to the other students, I'd laugh, it isn't bullying as if you didn't do the wrong thing, it wouldn't happen!

PerspicaciaTick Tue 28-Mar-17 01:29:00

It sounds like Groundhog Day.

OP goes to class. OP talks. OP is asked to stop. OP feels sad.
Next time OP goes to class. OP talks. OP is asked to stop. OP feels sad.
Next time OP goes to class. OP talks. OP is asked to stop. OP feels sad.

It takes someone spectacularly dim to look at the above and conclude that "My teacher is the problem".

JonesyAndTheSalad Tue 28-Mar-17 01:38:56

confused just don't talk! You're a bloody adult! Have some manners and listen!

JonesyAndTheSalad Tue 28-Mar-17 01:40:04

And complaining about being the "only one" reprimanded is really by the by.

If you're rude enough to talk over someone who is teaching you then you can't get on your high horse about who she focuses her frustration on.

notangelinajolie Tue 28-Mar-17 01:51:40

You sound like a 15 year old. You are also acting like a 15 year old. If you really want to learn something maybe you should start behaving like an adult and shut up and let the teacher do her jib.

Tartyflette Tue 28-Mar-17 01:52:31

I'm gobsmacked that adults, who presumably have voluntarily chosen and paid for an educational course of some kind, talk in class over the teacher who is trying do do his or her job and teach you!
Are you there to learn or not?

notangelinajolie Tue 28-Mar-17 01:53:28

*job even

kali110 Tue 28-Mar-17 01:57:48

Maybe your voice is the loudest? Most annoying?
Just stop talking!
Maybe other students have actually complained about you? ( i would)
And have. Last ever course i did. They had a really loud voice.
They spoke All the way through the lesson.
Every.single. Lesson.

Choccywoccyhooha Tue 28-Mar-17 02:00:58

Ha ha! This reminds me of many if the teenagers I have taught.
"Johnny, you need to stop talking and listen please. "
"Is it only me though, Miss, is it only me though?"

Frustrating with 13 year olds, beyond rude with adults.

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