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'you fucking horrible child ! i fucking hate you!'

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pipsqueak25 Mon 27-Mar-17 19:12:39

am at dm's and just heard this screamed by neighbour to his young dd, mum not at home, dd wailing in her room, doors slaming etc, dm is worried but unsure what to do usual thing apparently, child is well dressed and cared for, father is a gobby little shit, what would you do ?

March01 Mon 27-Mar-17 19:14:07

How young is the DD? Is she school age? If she is school age then find out which school and report to their Safeguarding Lead.

March01 Mon 27-Mar-17 19:14:33

Otherwise I'd phone NSPCC.

Inkanta Mon 27-Mar-17 19:14:43

I would go round. Probably wall him up.

Littlelostdinosaur Mon 27-Mar-17 19:16:27

How young is the dad? Does your dm hear any signs of physical abuse taking place? How frequent is this kind of thing? Personally if I felt concerned for the welfare then I would call police non emergency and just pass the details to them. They'll be able to check to see if there is any history and can pass details over to the relevant department or agency if they feel they need to check on her safety now or in the future.
The other alternative is ignore it I suppose. I don't think I'd be comfortable with that. You can be anonymous to report it.

Wando1986 Mon 27-Mar-17 19:18:35

I once witnessed a Mum scream "shut up you crying c*nt!!!!" at her newborn baby in Asda.

That was a fun day. sad

DumbledoresApprentice Mon 27-Mar-17 19:19:35

Call the police! This was me as a child, and it was awful. Nobody called the police, not once. There's no way people didn't hear. I'd like to think that we live in more enlightened times and that people would report that sort of thing nowadays. sad

WaegukSaram Mon 27-Mar-17 19:19:51

That is fucking awful. I know we're kind of conditioned to MYOB but I couldn't just leave that. Poor kid.

pipsqueak25 Mon 27-Mar-17 19:20:35

about 6, knob is mid / late20's, i'm going to get dm to check for colour of uniform as the child goes past her house and notify the school i think. dm is really upset about it and i'm fecking angry as heck !
i won't be ignoring it that's for sure.

ReginaGeorgeinSheepsClothing Mon 27-Mar-17 19:21:33

I'd call social work out of hours, again if there is background they may know them.some may say that's over reaction but I'd rather that and it's nothing than ignore and it's something.

ReginaGeorgeinSheepsClothing Mon 27-Mar-17 19:22:29

DA am so sorry to hear that.

DumbledoresApprentice Mon 27-Mar-17 19:26:02

Thanks Regina. I don't normally share that sort of thing on MN but the OP really hit me hard. It would have meant so much to me if someone had reported it.

trumpstinycock Mon 27-Mar-17 19:26:20

@Wando It's not ideal but at least a newborn doesn't understand, and those very, very early days are so tough.

I told my newborn to fuck off once after I had gone a solid 42 hours with no sleep and he'd just woken up again just as I was drifting off. Not my finest moment, but nobody died.

I wouldn't dream of saying something like that now he's older though, back to the OP's experience. It is different. I might be tempted to pop round and ask if I could help. And try and suss out what the atmosphere was like.

PeachyImpeachment Mon 27-Mar-17 19:32:18

That's horrible. Speak to someone.

Vandree Mon 27-Mar-17 19:37:34

Report it if you can please. My SIL has bipolar disorder and really struggled at time. As she and my dn lived alone and dn was tiny, it was only reports from a neighbour that got them the help she needed. When shes hit rock bottom but cant see it she can be very shouty and mean, it takes someone else to step in sometimes. In saying that the parent could be just a total knob, report anyway

Bookeatingboy Mon 27-Mar-17 19:38:34

I wouldn't go round, the bloke might not take kindly to you outing him and take is out on the little girl once you've gone.

Speak to either the school or social services, if there is history they will follow up, if not then it puts the family on the radar.

MrsJaniceBattersby Mon 27-Mar-17 19:41:21

Why ring the school ?
Ring the duty team now and report it

GreenPeppers Mon 27-Mar-17 19:41:36

Agree. Do NOT go round. This could get qubetter te nasty and I doubt the guy will take any comment about the way he is speaking to his dd very well.

DoItTooJulia Mon 27-Mar-17 19:43:11

School? Fuck that. NSPCC, 101 or duty social worker.

embod Mon 27-Mar-17 19:43:28

You need to report it directly as the school won't really be able to do anything as it's hearsay.

purplecoathanger Mon 27-Mar-17 19:48:54

That's emotional abuse and definitely needs reporting to Children's Services, Safeguarding Department. You need to 'phone them, don't bother with telling the school as it would be second hand information.

It definitely isn't an over reaction, that's awful and unacceptable. That poor child.

Outbackshack Mon 27-Mar-17 19:50:37

The mum next to us in our previous house often spoke to her child like this. We rang social services and a few weeks later she turned up on our doorstep screaming abuse because she had been told my social services that her neighbour had reported her. We are semi detached so could only have been us. We said yes was us and explained why. She calmed down eventually and admitted she couldn't cope. Ss then seemed to be round more often and previously house bound child began attending school. In short it was worth it but a bit stressful at the time

Happyandhungry Mon 27-Mar-17 19:55:27

My friend's neighbour screams obscenities at her kids regularly and hits them. She has filmed it and reported them several times to council, police and school and lots of other people. Frankly no one seems to care much even though it's a daily occurrence and so bad she can hear every word through the wall, feel free to report it but nothing will be done (you have no proof and even with proof my friend has gotten nowhere) nothing has been learned since Baby P and all the other cases.

wowbutter Mon 27-Mar-17 19:59:20

Calling the children's social care e,regency number, or reporting via the nspcc are the best way.
School will have to report it, so you cut out the middle man if it's done by you.

PennyPickle Mon 27-Mar-17 20:01:46

If you are concerned that the child needs help NOW call 999 and report it - NOW! You are there. You are the only one who has an idea of how concerning this may be. Otherwise call 101 and report it. A call from the Police will shake the bully up a bit and hopefully stop him in his tracks and think about repeating his actions. It does no harm for him to be aware that the neighbours are on alert

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