Am I totally pfb?

[zivashighkick]

I have a 4m old dc and have had a couple of frustrations with family.

1. My bil took a photo of my baby from a private message, cropped other family members out of it and posted it on (the dreaded) facebook without tagging or telling me or DH.
   

1. My dm is upset with me because I snapped at her when she went to put a finger of lemon curd in the baby's mouth. There are on-going invesigations into allergies and I have been open that I don't want to start any weaning until 6m.
   

I feel like both situations are trampling on my boundaries. I find the possessiveness over the baby from extended family jarring. Am I justified in feeling put out by these things? Or am I just pfb?

[welshweasel]

First one wouldn't bother me. The lemon curd would necessitate a friendly conversation about why we didn't want it given...the first time..if they persisted I'd get cross. I think you're being a little bit precious and they probably aren't doing it on purpose.

[firawla]

You're not pfb. I have a 3 month old who is dc4 and I wouldn't be happy with those things either!!

[Pigface1]

I don't think you're being U, especially about the second one. I wouldn't put my finger in someone else's baby's mouth, least of all with lemon curd on it.

[IrishTwin]

Both of these issues are justified in my opinion. I have 4 children 9 and under and although I have no issues with my children being on Facebook I respect that others aren't as keen to have their children's pics on there. Your bil was probably being a proud uncle though and I don't think he did it to annoy you although it understandably did.
The lemon curd one was also justified especially as your child could have an allergy. Your dm needed to respect your boundaries and the current health advice.

Please don't worry about being pfb. It's
Your child and your rules. With my 4th as long as she gets through the day unmarked then I'm happy lol! But I was very different with my first!

[Waddlelikeapenguin]

Both of those would both me & I have three so not PFB

[SpitefulMidLifeAnimal]

Nothing more to add to what PP have said, YANBU. Esp. the lemon curd.

[Wishiwasmoiradingle2017]

Nowt to do with allergies that you dont want a spoon of yellow sugar going into your baby's mouth!
Incidents like this are a red flag to no unsupervised babysitting imo.

[waterrat]

not pfb.

the lemon curd first time would be annoying. second time I would be pissed off.

[Booshbeesh]

I would be more pissed that the mother in law was about ro.put her finger in my babys mouth. God knows what shes touched coughed/sneezed. Ergh. Makes my blood boil. Then im the kind of.person that dont let strangers coo over my baby in tesco. Because well u no there strangers. The fb wouldnt annoy me unless u have specifically asked no pictures on fb.

[mummabubs]

YANBU. I'd be fuming with either situation! Xx

[zivashighkick]

I feel irritated with bil as I think he is giving the impression of spending more time with ds than he has. Not the end of the world but still.

My dm is more upsetting. I went and apologised to her for snapping but she didn't apologise for doing it which makes me feel that she would do it again. I think the best policy would be to forgive once and be vigilant in future. I never thought I would have to monitor dm though!

[Spiralblanket]

Both would annoy me