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To not make myself a birthday cake

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SleepWhatSleep1 Mon 27-Mar-17 08:34:12

I have 3 small children and a DH.
I'm extremely sleep deprived and also quite pissed off for a variety of reasons - not helped by the sleep deprivation.
My mother never made me a birthday cake. Or bought one as far as i can remember. So if i wanted a birthday cake I've always had to make my own.
I don't have that many friends so not doing anything for my birthday anyway.
I CBA to make a dairy and soya free cake with Children "helping" creating a huge mess that i will have to clean up. (Breastfed baby is dairy and soya intolerant)

SleepWhatSleep1 Mon 27-Mar-17 08:36:16

And Dh had all weekend to wonder where the cake was. He didn't. And he won't make one now.

BouleBaker Mon 27-Mar-17 08:37:20

Fuck em all. Buy yourself something you can eat and enjoy and don't share a single bite.

blueskyinmarch Mon 27-Mar-17 08:39:20

That's a bit of a strange question but then i haven’t had a birthday cake in years. It just wouldn’t occur to me that i needed one. If you don’t want a cake don’t make one. It is not obligatory.

SleepWhatSleep1 Mon 27-Mar-17 08:50:40

Sorry probably missed a bit of information - the kids want a cake.

FritzDonovan Mon 27-Mar-17 08:53:43

Well, it's not their birthday. And you don't want to make one. Either buy one or don't.

Justanothernameonthepage Mon 27-Mar-17 08:57:50

Nah, if they are really bugging for one, buy one and you could let them decorate it for you tonight under DH's supervision. Or get ingredients for a dairy free crispy cake that they can make then. Happy Birthday though!

HeddaGarbled Mon 27-Mar-17 08:59:33

Buy one.

TheSnowFairy Mon 27-Mar-17 09:06:59

Go and buy your absolute favourite.

And Happy Birthday cake

SleepWhatSleep1 Mon 27-Mar-17 09:07:13

If I buy one it won't be dairy and soya free

SleepWhatSleep1 Mon 27-Mar-17 09:07:48

And thanks for the birthday wishes smile

Butterymuffin Mon 27-Mar-17 09:10:22

Does the breastfed baby have to have cake? Surely they're too young to complain? Get a shop bought cake for you and the others.

blueskyinmarch Mon 27-Mar-17 09:14:03

You tell the DC that it isn't their birthday so they don't get the right to demand cake. They will get cake when it is their birthday. You get whatever you want on yours.

FoofFighter Mon 27-Mar-17 09:16:02

Some in Asda are df and sf

BarbaraofSeville Mon 27-Mar-17 09:16:23

If it's only the baby who's dairy and soya intolerant, just buy a normal one. Or does it mean that you can't eat dairy and soya either as it will pass into your breastmilk?

Is there anything available in the Free From section? Both Sainsbury's and Morrisons at least have a wide selection so may have a nice cake? Or no bakeries nearby that may have something suitable?

MamaHanji Mon 27-Mar-17 09:16:36

My breastfed baby is wheat egg and dairy intolerant so I feel your pain! Tell the kids 'daddy is going to make mummy a special cake for her birthday and we can all have a piece!'

Sometimes passive aggressive is the only way people can see passed themselves.

Happy birthday!

FoofFighter Mon 27-Mar-17 09:17:28

Buttery - it'll go through the breastmilk...

RhiWrites Mon 27-Mar-17 09:18:20

Tell them "when it's your birthday do you make the cake? No, of course not. So on my birthday I'm not making a cake."

primaryboodle Mon 27-Mar-17 09:19:57

buttery grin that made me laugh! It goes through the breastmilk!! (Not being arsey it just tickled me)

hippy1952 Mon 27-Mar-17 09:22:17

Sainsburys do a fantastic chocolate cake in their free from section. It only costs £8 and is lovely.

seven201 Mon 27-Mar-17 09:34:46

Buy a free from cake. My dd also has cmpa.

Butterymuffin Mon 27-Mar-17 09:35:49

D'OH! Not thinking clearly this Monday grin I did bf myself.. blush but was lucky and didn't have allergies to cope with. In that case, tell kids it's your choice because it's your birthday and you've decreed it will be celebratory bacon sandwich day or whatever else works for you.

SleepWhatSleep1 Mon 27-Mar-17 09:38:49

Ooh we have an asda not too far away - never looked in their free from section - will give that a go, thanks! grin

SleepWhatSleep1 Mon 27-Mar-17 09:39:34

No sainsburies nearby sad

ScoobyDoosTinklyLaugh Mon 27-Mar-17 10:17:19

They do them in tescos too.
They all have massive free from sections, go and buy yourself a variety of delicious junk food. And tell your DH he's a thoughtless tit at some point too.

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