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Re Mother's Day?

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Stumbleine · 27/03/2017 08:15

I live around 150 away from my Mum, so no plans to see each other yesterday. I sent a card. I bought her a gift (tickets to a show - my idea and I purchased them) It was a joint gift with my siblings who live close by to her, so I waited to let them tell her about the gift as they were seeing her for lunch.

I tried calling in the afternoon but her mobile went to answerphone and no answer on the landline. I wrote a Facebook message in the evening wishing her a happy Mother's Day and asking what she had been up to.

A bit later I received a text from my sister asking if I had spoken to Mum, as she was 'upset I hadn't contacted her.' I then tried calling again and also tried my Dad's phone. No answer. And she has ignored my Facebook message.

Aibu to think she needs to stop acting like a spoiled brat!? I have four of my own dc (one under 6 months), so isn't as though I was siting around all day doing nothing! She could have Ickes up the phone to speak to me if she was that desperate. I secretly think she is peeved that I haven't been publicly fawning all over her on Facebook (like everybody else seem to do!). She wrote several posts throughout the day, displaying gifts and proclaiming what a lovely time he was having

I'm now getting the cold shoulder and it really put a dampener on what was a lovely day for me yesterday.

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Stumbleine · 27/03/2017 08:18

That should say 150 miles.

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QuiteLikely5 · 27/03/2017 08:18

She sounds absolutely pathetic! You are wasting your time here love she is not acting in a rational way but instead seems to enjoy the attention she is garnering by pretending to everyone that you didn't bother with her.

Despicable way for a mother to behave

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Topuptheglass · 27/03/2017 08:20

Didn't you tell your sister about the missed phone calls?

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highinthesky · 27/03/2017 08:21

Leave the ball in DM's court for now. You have 4 DC of your own to raise, and DM is acting like a fifth.

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DonaldStott · 27/03/2017 08:21

Yab a bit u.

You didn't send ger a text/call her in the morning to say happy mothers day, have a lovely day.

I think it would have been nicer to contact her personally than put a half assed message on facebook which is basically 'look at me, aren't I lovely wishing my mum a great mothers day, so everyone can see meeeee''

Would it have been so hard to message her in the morning?

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Underthemoonlight · 27/03/2017 08:23

There some very entitled people about yesterday i couldn't believe the amount moaning threads especially the daughter one who drew a card and then made homemade scones. You are not being unreasonable you got her a card and gift. You have a family of your own she needs to understand you may want to spend the day with your family. I wouldn't reach out anymore than you have let her be in a huff.

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Stumbleine · 27/03/2017 08:25

Yes, I did tell my sister about the missed calls.

DonaldStott - it was private message I sent her, not a public post.

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TheWhiteRoseOfYork · 27/03/2017 08:28

Donald- the op has four kids of her own including a young baby, maybe she did not have time to catch her breath until the evening, let alone pander to her mum! YANBU OP, you have done nothing wrong!

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DoNotBlameMeIVotedRemain · 27/03/2017 08:30

Just ignore her. She's being ridiculous. Did your siblings claim the tickets were from only them / organised by them?

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Mrsknackered · 27/03/2017 08:32

She'll get over it that's ridiculous.
I also live that distance from family and she was quite satisfied with the card and books I sent!

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RainbowPastel · 27/03/2017 09:35

You should have called or text her first thing not in the afternoon. I am not surprised she is upset.

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Stumbleine · 27/03/2017 09:49

Thanks for the input. I'm thinking of messaging her along the lines of 'sorry I upset you, let's be friends type thing.' I fear if I call she will just be all sulky and passive aggressive (she isn't the most emotionally expressive person!). I'm annoyed by this but I really don't want to fall out over it

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Topuptheglass · 27/03/2017 21:31

How'd it go stumbiline?

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embo1 · 27/03/2017 21:37

Maybe include in there why you thought she'd enjoy that particular show... So she realises you were thinking about her. And how it's a shame how you missed her everytime you called...

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Stumbleine · 27/03/2017 23:23

Update - she called me this morning. My card didn't turn up until today (despite me posting in good time!). And she said that she did not realise I had tried calling. I can believe that as her phone does do some weird stuff sometimes. I still think she was being
a little petulant, but we have exchanged apologies and all is good with the world again!