As it was Mother's Day yesterday my husband invited his parents over, under the premis that he and FIL could cook for us.
PIL arrived late and when they got here FIL started barking orders at DH, do this, do that, why are you doing that? Do it this way? You are peeling carrots wrap by, get me a drink:
Do you have a TV? -he knows we have a TV! Go turn it on for me. The football is on.
Turns to DD and says, go turn the TV on for me. Football.
We explain she doesn't know how to use it, and that DH wanted me and MIL to be able to watch a film and relax as it's always us that spend the day in the kitchen cooking.
He carries on so DH goes up to the living room to put the football on for him. Whilst he's muttering about going home so he can watch the football because he can't here.
Footballs on. He disappears.
He comes down stairs when dinners about to be served, and complains food is being put on plates and that he can't choose what he wants. This is code for as much as he wants. He had a huge plate full (loads of beef, about 8 potatoes, cabbage,cauliflower and broccoli, carrots) he criticises dinner which was beautiful and DHs first roast he has ever cooked.
He then does a smelly fart and tells us he's going home.
He then realised there's dessert which he decided he will stay for, but between mouthfuls he's talking about how DH will need to get a shower and go to bed after dinner (6pm!)
He finishes, starts farting and talking about how he's bunged up, then he's going home.
He walks towards the door. MIL has been mortified at his behaviour, has been profusely apologetic.
didn't say much in reply, just nodded a bit and minimised what a PITA FIL was.
It wasn't until an hour after they left that I went up to the living room and I see staining where FIL my st have had oil on his trainers on my carpet that isn't yet 4 months old.
I can just about take the rudeness. Just! I've got very good at making excuses for him, but I can't excuse the complete lack of respect and ruining my carpet, and turning the TV on really quite loud and wandering off for dinner whilst leaving it on.
In anger I said to DH, Never invite that man into our house again, he's a rude disrespectful fucker. I've now calmed down, and whilst I shouldn't have said them things (even if true!) I feel that I shouldn't have to have him here When it gets to the point where he's ruining our stuff.
I know he has sore knees, but my dad who's legs are worse (dad can only walk with help of a stick) takes his shoes off when entering my home. There's a bench seat for those who may need it in the hallway. We always take shoes off in their house.
It's probably worth saying his sofa,and the surrounding carpet are all completely fucked by the way that FIL wears his footwear indoors whilst traipsing about, and the way he throws himself about on the sofa. Can't expect any changes here!
I'd love to have MIL over more often, because she's wonderful.
Just feel like I'm being U and really nasty.
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Would I be unreasonable to never let him in my house again?
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Dumbo412 · 27/03/2017 06:28
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