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AIBU not to remove shoes in the home

530 replies

Illtellyouwhatswhat10 · 27/03/2017 00:02

Generally we don't ask guests to remove their shoes, and my SIL said she doesn't either. We both agreed that when you go to the trouble to put on a nice outfit, it's ruined when you have to take off your footwear. SIL added that as we both have tiled/wooden floors in downstairs room why would you ask guests to, anyway?

And another thing, it's often not nice to be barefoot in someone else's home (at least in your own place you have your own slippers) and I'm aware that some people may feel conscious about smelly feet/odd unsightly feet/verrucas. Even if hosts provide slippers, would you want to wear something that's been worn by someone else?

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foxyloxy78 · 27/03/2017 00:05

Yabu. Definitely remove shoes when you enter someone's home. The thought of germ ridden outdoor shoes inside my home makes me ill.

Sunshineandlaughter · 27/03/2017 00:06

Yabu -it's a hygiene thing

ArriettyClock1 · 27/03/2017 00:08

I would never ask guests to remove their shoes - it's really weird imo and unwelcoming.

However, I will remove mine in someone else's house if that's their thing, (even though I will think them prissy and uptight).

No way would I wear 2nd hand slippers though!

WaegukSaram · 27/03/2017 00:09

Different people have different rules for their homes, no worries if you want to wear shoes at your home! I think wearing shoes inside is pretty minging, personally.

tectonicplates · 27/03/2017 00:09

So bring some socks with you then. Confused

CheeseQueen · 27/03/2017 00:12

When you're visiting, it's basic manners to respect the house rules of te host, surely? Keep your shoes on when visiting us, but if you visit someone who has a no shoe rule in the house then you comply!
As I said, basic manners. Who actually would keep them on regardless?! So rude.

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 27/03/2017 00:13

TAAT

user1469914265 · 27/03/2017 00:14

I have a massive scar on my foot. A result of a horrific motorcycle crash when I was younger. I'd be utterly mortified if in order to endure someone's house I would have to take my shoes off.

felinewonderful · 27/03/2017 00:19

Yabu I don't understand why anyone would wear shoes in the house, surely they are covered in germs from outside?

Joffmognum · 27/03/2017 00:25

user, what if you were wearing socks?

Izzy24 · 27/03/2017 00:27

YANBU

Sweets101 · 27/03/2017 00:27

Don't be mortified user just wear socks/opaque tights/take slippers.
Outdoor shoes indoors is dirty

MrsCobain · 27/03/2017 00:28

Wearing shoes in the house is revolting.

CactusFred · 27/03/2017 00:29

I like people to take shoes off when visiting but if they felt uncomfortable I wouldn't insist.

I home visit people though and in 5 years have only been asked to remove shoes twice. Once for religious reasons and other for posh carpet reasons. I felt really vulnerable without my shoes on in a stranger's house!

MrsCobain · 27/03/2017 00:30

I keep a basket of slippers by the door. Always a couple of pairs of new, cheap hotel type ones too if anyone is going to be extra fussy and want new ones. But if you're dirty enough to wear outdoor shoes inside I really don't see why you'd fuss about wearing slippers that have been pre worn.

kimann · 27/03/2017 00:32

I don't know anyone who would use shoes in any house. Most of my house is carpeted and I dread to think of the transfers that have happened before - my husband sometimes forgets something upstairs and runs up with his shoes on and I totally freak out. I usually take my shoes off in other people's houses too, I normally have socks/tights on.

Lulabell1979 · 27/03/2017 00:35

Love that there is 2 threads on this with-totally different viewpoints!

Shoes inside is grim. I don't allow it for hygiene reasons but also fed up of people's high heels damaging wood.

Get over your outfit issues.

LadyMaryofDownt0n · 27/03/2017 00:36

Yabu-shoes off! Wearing shoes in the house is horrible. I take mine off in everyone's house unless it's actually mingling anyway & they don't bother.

In my house i expect everyone to take shoes off especially as we have cream carpets! Even my two yo says "Shoes off everyone"

WaegukSaram · 27/03/2017 00:41

But if you're dirty enough to wear outdoor shoes inside I really don't see why you'd fuss about wearing slippers that have been pre worn.

Grin So true!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 27/03/2017 00:42

Lulabell I don't think that's a coincidence Smile

AntiHop · 27/03/2017 00:44

Shoes off in my home.

Trainspotting1984 · 27/03/2017 00:48

Why is your SILs view so important?

Shoes off here. I wouldn't force anyone but sitting around with your shoes on is fairly grim

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Xoticdreamz · 27/03/2017 00:48

Just have some repect for the householders wishes and take your shoes off if it's the etiquette in that home .
It's actually really annoying when people visit, see shoes and the fronts door and keep them in . They may have homes that it's okay to keep on but many others don't .

MrsCobain · 27/03/2017 00:56

Ds is 3.5 and loudly says 'Mummy says shoes in the house is DISGUSTING.'

I'm always half mortified and half relieved. Grin

SpreadYourHappiness · 27/03/2017 01:02

YABVU. In someone else's house, you don't get the choice to say you won't remove your shoes if they ask. In fact, when entering someone's house you should take your shoes off automatically without having to be asked. It's just polite.

Nobody wants the dirt from outside being trod all over their house.

If someone refused to remove their shoes in my house, I'd refuse them entry.

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