My MIL and SIL think there's a ghost in our house.(32 Posts)
So we've just had my lovely sister in law and her two boys to stay with us this weekend. We were chatting on Saturday night and I'm not sure how it come up but she said "I don't know if I should tell you, Mum told me not to" - 'mum' here is my MIL. She then went on to say "you have a ghost in your house, a spirit. I felt it last time we stayed and that's why I couldn't sleep well at first. Me and Mum both felt it." So I asked her to explain a bit more (a bit baffled at this point!) and she said one end of our house has a "shadow". She said "I got up and followed it around, I couldn't hear it walking around. I told it to go to sleep and I said some prayers".
IMO this is absolute
bollocks rubbish, as our house does not have a ghost. I don't believe in them, though I know others do. I just feel a bit annoyed at the whole thing. AIBU to be slightly peed off ?
We only moved to Australia 7 months ago, and been on this house for 5 months. I am desperately trying to feel settled, and to think they've been talking about our house/home that it has a spirit of ghost. This is the kind of BS 🐂💩 I have to put up with here. It's just another example of how my MIL loves to turn the attention on herself, that she has this special 'gift'....
AiBU? I just can't be bothered with this type of rubbish, so... 🙄 I think I'm most annoyed that they've talked about our house saying here's a spirit, it's our home, fancy saying that kind of rubbish. And to not tel me? Yes because my MiL knows I'd be annoyed at her because it's out of order.
YANBU, it does sound like they're being melodramatic, and I say that as someone who has lived in many haunted houses.
Could you be deliberately blasé about it, so next time they come round for say lunch, just as they go to sit down shriek in horror and tell them not to sit on Ermintrude, then talk to Ermintrude sporadically for effect?
Also I'm a former serial expat so . The settling in is often pretty trying.
Get some sage packages for burning, they make smoke for 'cleansing' your house, I love the smell, but also agree with the bill s@£t part, but they will think you are dealing with it and shut up!!
It can be pretty hurtful actually, my not very DM did the exact same thing about my first real "home". Considering I'ld never had a happy home with her as a child, my first happy home as an adult meant a lot to me (I guess similar to settling into home abroad - it's a big deal), and it was shitty that she tried to cast a shadow on it.
Its not that she was lying , she believes her bullshit.. but she clearly came into my home looking for a problem and determined not to like it, and she found "something" and the REALLY ANNOYING THING IS you can't even "prove" there's nothing there (can't prove a negative etc) and she has told lots of people we mutually know and as that house meant a lot to me (first really happy memories in a home) that really sucks!
Aw this sounds dreadful poor you 💐 And for worse than my MiL. I can see how that situation would be very hurtful.
I think I am hurt by it too, I don't want to invite them around at the moment... I love my sister in law, she is a nice person. I feel most annoyed at my MIL I think and I'm not sure why I'm more annoyed at her ?? Maybe because I expected more of an adult response from her to the "ghost". I don't want them round incase they experience the ghost.., they'll just have more to talk about, I find it so awkward and embarrassing.
She definitely believes in her own gift though. She has 'visions' and feelings etc etc. I see it as rubbish though, I don't mean to be offensive but... she said she's 'psychic' 🙄.
It's sort of soured our home as inviting them around now will be "oh god what are they going to say when they go this time". My SIL will no doubt tell my MiL she told me about the 'ghost'. 😩 Why is my hubby part of such a weird family?! I never had any of this rubbish back in the UK.
If they say again about it I think I'd reply back along the lines of 'well we've only ever felt happy here so it can't be bothered about us - must be MIL it's pissed if at if it only makes itself known to her......'
I really think for the sake of good relations you should indulge her and ask her advice on how to get rid of the ghost. She will probably come round and help you. Then let us know how it went
Sounds like an excellent excuse to stop inviting them!
please tell us your house was built in 2007!!!
They sound quite mad. At least get some fun out of it -- dress up in a sheet and whisper ''Wooooo' outside her door. Get some black-clad friends around, make them some cardboard dog-collars and tell her they're the diocesan exorcism team, and they've never seen a case like it. Get her to lead you all in a rousing rendition of 'Lead, Kindly Light' and send it to one of those 'You've Been Framed' programmes. Have you got a small child who could projectile vomit at a key moment?
If you don't believe in ghosts and don't feel their "presence" then why bother? Don't give shit.
I would absolutely make fun with it, give ghosty a name and include it in everyday conversations whenever they're around, set it a place at the dinner table, tell them it's a part of the family now etc.
The house was built in 1999, so not old but not absolutely new. It's a weatherboard house and feels quite warm and comfortable really.
I could make fun out of this and wind them up a bit, but after thinking about it some more, I think I jut wont mention it again and if it never comes up in conversation again that's it. If it does I'll just laugh it off sort of "yes whatever" if you know what I mean, and maybe mention the fact that we are trying to feel settled.
Everyone in my hubby's family will believe my MIL and SIL because that's the kind of family they are. I hate saying "bollocks" to this type of stuff but if I genuinely felt like either of them did have a gift I'd be a bit nicer about it, but she's always after attention my MIL. She has 7 kids though so I think she's used to everyone fussing about her, and when I come along and don't play ball well.... I'm the devils daughter ha ha 😂 ! She always has to be the centre of attention. We've had a few run ins, and this would be next on the list. 🙄
'Mum told me not to tell you'.... ri-I-ight, so you did, why would that be, I wonder?
Such drama from them.
I would just say that since you are not aware, and it appears to have no effect on anyone's lives, it is not relevant to you whether they can sense anything or not.
It is just irritating. There will always be something. Laugh it off to yourself.
As long as you're happy and comfortable in your house, that's all that matters.
I agree with shitgibbon about making your 'friendly ghost' a part of your family, just to wind them up!
God i hate this nonsense. Am annoyed on your behalf that they're trying to ruin your experience of your new house. Personally I'd use it as an excuse not to have them round anymore.
I dont really see what the fuss is about. Just ignore them, you know that they are trying to put a dampner on your new home so dont let them. If you dont believe in ghosts then it wont affect you anyway.
Or better still, say to MIL and SIL that the ghost only appears when they're in the house so clearly it doesn't like their presence
YANBU. What utter bollocks from them. Just politely tell them ghosts don't exist and that they're being ridiculous; perhaps they need to go to their GP for help?
If they persist, tell them not to come round anymore then.
You're right, it is total bollocks. I second the idea of taking the piss in a "Surely no adult would seriously believe in this rubbish" kind of way.
Tell them that it must've followed them. That will put the wind up them!
I once lived with a ghost. For me it made it extra special and exciting as im not bothered by them but i totally get why your bothered.
Id treat it as a joke ( and wind them up). If ypu dont believe then gave a good laugh at her expense. She sounds v attention seeking.
yes...tell them you HAVE noticed the Presence BUT only when they are in the house!
It must be attached to their sin/evil/unkindness and how sorry you are for them. And bash them over the head with a pot of burning sage while you explain all this with a concerned head tilt.
Start rambling on about auras, shadows, orbs and cold spots as you walk past them, bet they won't like it when you start dishing it out.
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