To confront these so called friends?

[YouKnowNothingJS]

Arranged to see Beauty and the Beast with 3 friends. In a group chat, two cancelled as they couldn't afford it and the third cancelled as we should do it instead when everyone is free.

Flat mate who is also friends with one of them saw on snapchat that they'd all gone this afternoon. They'd blocked me from seeing this Snapchat.

Aibu to confront them? Tempted to leave a message in our group chat.

[chastenedButStillSmiling]

My instinct was to suggest a very PA "how did you enjoy the film, guys?"

but I'm now thinking... what do you hope to achieve? Are these friends important to you? Would you be upset to lose them? If not, drop. If so... um... guess you need to hang on in there???

Are you upset?

Could there be any reason? EG they're all massive Emma Watson fans and you loathe her so they think you might bring the mood down? (sorry, just trying to think of any 'whys')

[SEsofty]

You clearly need to find out what happened.

Are you planning on seeing any​of them anyway as might be better to ask in person

[witsender]

I would have to say something tbh.

[CocoLoco87]

Really sorry OP. What a lousy thing for them to do I hate situations like this. Surely they must know you'd find out sooner or later! I hope you have some other friends you can go and see it with.

[ophiotaurus]

Wtf?! I think I'd have to say something. I'd message them and say what you've seen.

[SorrelSoup]

"So what was all that about then?" No emotion, put the ball firmly in their court. Sounds like the end of the friendship. That's awful behaviour.

[Wishiwasmoiradingle2017]

Not my definition of a friendship.

[khajiit13]

You need to say something yes. There's. I excuse for that, thu deliberately excluded you and I'd need an explanation or I wouldn't want to be seeing them again.

[PrivetDrive24]

Thats pretty shitty of them

[Moanyoldcow]

What a bunch of cunts.

[HelloDeer]

Nasty, nasty bitches!

Personally I would confront them and then cut them out of my life and never speak to them or have anything to do with them again! They sound like they're about 6 years old anyway, you definitely don't need friends like that.

[AddToBasket]

Yes, you were deliberately left out. Horrible.

But don't 'confront' them. You really don't need to. You know all that you need to know from their behaviour. You cannot make them invite you or want to hang out with you.

But, you can hang on to your dignity. Make new friends. Painful as it is, I would think a bit about why they might have not wanted you there. But ultimately, remember that they have behaved extremely badly.

[AYankinSpanx]

"So what was all that about then?" No emotion, put the ball firmly in their court. Sounds like the end of the friendship. That's awful behaviour.

I agree ^^

The blocking thing is so deliberate - I wouldn't be friends with these people anymore.

[Italiangreyhound]

I'd speak to them face by face independently. See if one person was the one who suggested it etc and was mean and others just went along with it.

If anyone was apologetic etc I'd probably be prepared to move on but I would really want to know why they felt his was OK, because it was definitively not OK.

I'd also try and make some new friends, what yours did was nasty and sneaky.

[ShowMeWhatYouGot]

Bless you, we all assume this childish crap stops when we get older, sadly that's not the case, some people are just jerks x


hope your ok op

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

That's a very mean shitty trick.
I'd wash my hands of them from now on, and give them a mouthful as to you.
There are times you have to speak your mind.
If its any consolation. My ex friends were the same. Hence why they're now ex friends.

[Agadooo]

I'd have to say something-I think I would just post on group chat saying 'how come nobody said to me about going to the cinema today?' And see what they say.

[StealthPolarBear]

This is so utterly strange. You need to ask what is going on.

[Joolsy]

Have you fallen out with one or more of them at all lately? Or had any sort of disagreement, no matter how small?

[pho3be]

Id have to say something

[paxillin]

Don't confront them. Cut them out. Delete their numbers so you don't get tempted to find out what's going on.

[goodpiemissedthechips]

How painful, I'm really sorry this has happened

[DJBaggySmalls]

Thats not friendship, challenge them and give them a chance to explain but be prepared to find out they have moved on.

[ThoraGruntwhistle]

Unfortunately if it were me, the red mist would descend and I'd end up texting them something like 'I see you all found enough money to see the film in the end then? Nice to know I'm not good enough to go with. Fuck the lot of you, bitches.'
Of course I'd have absolutely none of the moral high ground. But they really are shitbags for deliberately excluding you.