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To confront these so called friends?

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YouKnowNothingJS Sun 26-Mar-17 20:57:56

Arranged to see Beauty and the Beast with 3 friends. In a group chat, two cancelled as they couldn't afford it and the third cancelled as we should do it instead when everyone is free.

Flat mate who is also friends with one of them saw on snapchat that they'd all gone this afternoon. They'd blocked me from seeing this Snapchat.

Aibu to confront them? Tempted to leave a message in our group chat.

chastenedButStillSmiling Sun 26-Mar-17 21:01:55

My instinct was to suggest a very PA "how did you enjoy the film, guys?"

but I'm now thinking... what do you hope to achieve? Are these friends important to you? Would you be upset to lose them? If not, drop. If so... um... guess you need to hang on in there???

Are you upset?

Could there be any reason? EG they're all massive Emma Watson fans and you loathe her so they think you might bring the mood down? (sorry, just trying to think of any 'whys')

SEsofty Sun 26-Mar-17 21:03:01

You clearly need to find out what happened.

Are you planning on seeing any​of them anyway as might be better to ask in person

witsender Sun 26-Mar-17 21:04:05

I would have to say something tbh.

CocoLoco87 Sun 26-Mar-17 21:04:09

Really sorry OP. What a lousy thing for them to do sad I hate situations like this. Surely they must know you'd find out sooner or later! I hope you have some other friends you can go and see it with.

SorrelSoup Sun 26-Mar-17 21:05:04

"So what was all that about then?" No emotion, put the ball firmly in their court. Sounds like the end of the friendship. That's awful behaviour.

ophiotaurus Sun 26-Mar-17 21:05:04

Wtf?! I think I'd have to say something. I'd message them and say what you've seen.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Sun 26-Mar-17 21:06:18

Not my definition of a friendship. confused

khajiit13 Sun 26-Mar-17 21:06:26

You need to say something yes. There's. I excuse for that, thu deliberately excluded you and I'd need an explanation or I wouldn't want to be seeing them again.

PrivetDrive24 Sun 26-Mar-17 21:06:36

Thats pretty shitty of them

Moanyoldcow Sun 26-Mar-17 21:07:34

What a bunch of cunts.

HecateAntaia Sun 26-Mar-17 21:07:50

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HelloDeer Sun 26-Mar-17 21:07:55

Nasty, nasty bitches!

Personally I would confront them and then cut them out of my life and never speak to them or have anything to do with them again! They sound like they're about 6 years old anyway, you definitely don't need friends like that.

AddToBasket Sun 26-Mar-17 21:08:27

Yes, you were deliberately left out. sad Horrible.

But don't 'confront' them. You really don't need to. You know all that you need to know from their behaviour. You cannot make them invite you or want to hang out with you.

But, you can hang on to your dignity. Make new friends. Painful as it is, I would think a bit about why they might have not wanted you there. But ultimately, remember that they have behaved extremely badly.

AYankinSpanx Sun 26-Mar-17 21:09:07

"So what was all that about then?" No emotion, put the ball firmly in their court. Sounds like the end of the friendship. That's awful behaviour.

I agree ^^

The blocking thing is so deliberate - I wouldn't be friends with these people anymore.

Italiangreyhound Sun 26-Mar-17 21:09:38

I'd speak to them face by face independently. See if one person was the one who suggested it etc and was mean and others just went along with it.

If anyone was apologetic etc I'd probably be prepared to move on but I would really want to know why they felt his was OK, because it was definitively not OK.

I'd also try and make some new friends, what yours did was nasty and sneaky.

ShowMeWhatYouGot Sun 26-Mar-17 21:10:27

Bless you, we all assume this childish crap stops when we get older, sadly that's not the case, some people are just jerks x

hope your ok op wine

Awwlookatmybabyspider Sun 26-Mar-17 21:10:58

That's a very mean shitty trick.
I'd wash my hands of them from now on, and give them a mouthful as to you.
There are times you have to speak your mind.
If its any consolation. My ex friends were the same. Hence why they're now ex friends.

Agadooo Sun 26-Mar-17 21:11:36

I'd have to say something-I think I would just post on group chat saying 'how come nobody said to me about going to the cinema today?' And see what they say.

StealthPolarBear Sun 26-Mar-17 21:11:39

This is so utterly strange. You need to ask what is going on.

Joolsy Sun 26-Mar-17 21:11:47

Have you fallen out with one or more of them at all lately? Or had any sort of disagreement, no matter how small?

pho3be Sun 26-Mar-17 21:12:27

Id have to say something wine

paxillin Sun 26-Mar-17 21:12:33

Don't confront them. Cut them out. Delete their numbers so you don't get tempted to find out what's going on.

goodpiemissedthechips Sun 26-Mar-17 21:12:35

How painful, I'm really sorry this has happened flowers

DJBaggySmalls Sun 26-Mar-17 21:12:54

Thats not friendship, challenge them and give them a chance to explain but be prepared to find out they have moved on.

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