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To expect a lie in today without an argument?

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bibbetybobbetybooo Sun 26-Mar-17 10:01:27

So yeah - Mother's Day...

DH has finally got up with the children and is now giving them breakfast.

But he wasn't going to do it willingly.
All I've had is 'so, today is where you're fucking lazy, then, is it?' plus other lovely comments.


Ca1ypso Sun 26-Mar-17 10:06:29

How very rude he is. Is he actually swearing at you?
Has he not sorted a gift from the DC?

GoldenHoops Sun 26-Mar-17 10:08:52

Put laxatives in his dinner, is he always a git.

elQuintoConyo Sun 26-Mar-17 10:11:27

What a buttmunch! Cpukd you accidentally kick him in the nuts today? joke

Have some flowers from me flowers and cake and tea cakebrew

Kittykatclaws Sun 26-Mar-17 10:11:38

What an arse!
Happy Mother's Day

bibbetybobbetybooo Sun 26-Mar-17 10:12:03

Oh yes. Swearing and stomping. He's made my breakfast - but actually, I wanted a bloody sleep!

I'm so fed up. He'll probably have bought something very expensive. Take photos and put it on FB to show the world how good HE is, then carry on like this.

Spadequeen Sun 26-Mar-17 10:13:22

And his good points are.....

bibbetybobbetybooo Sun 26-Mar-17 10:14:40

Recently I've been failing to find many good points. He cooks. But if I cook, he takes over anyway so that then he can say 'I always cook'.

Or if I do cook, he eats it then complains, or refuses to eat with us

SkySmiler Sun 26-Mar-17 10:19:47

You've got far bigger problems than a lie in row...

OliviaStabler Sun 26-Mar-17 10:21:28

You've got far bigger problems than a lie in row...

This ^^

bibbetybobbetybooo Sun 26-Mar-17 10:21:32

Looks like it, doesn't it... I'm getting increasingly fed up with his attitude/behaviour. He's like the male equivalent of a spoilt princess nowadays.

KittiKat Sun 26-Mar-17 10:29:24

But if I cook, he takes over anyway so that then he can say 'I always cook'.

You are lazy, that is what he is telling the world. He has no respect for you and he is trying to control you and undermine your self confidence. Got the T shirt...

Look out for when he starts checking that you have laid the table properly...

bibbetybobbetybooo Sun 26-Mar-17 10:34:45

I've not been very well for a while, so he's had to do more than he was previously used to (read that as - he never really had to do anything so he now has to do normal stuff like shopping!)

He definitely thinks I'm lazy - but my illness has made me lethargic and in pain. He knows this.

If he ever told me how to lay the table I think I'd slap him. But then I'd be painted out to be the unreasonable one, right...?

Applebite Sun 26-Mar-17 10:37:29

flowers and sorry that he's being such a prick.

I think you need to think about how you feel about him, OP sad

PoorYorick Sun 26-Mar-17 10:40:05

And you're with this twat because....?

bibbetybobbetybooo Sun 26-Mar-17 10:42:35

I love him and he can be great. That's not happening very much nowadays and it's actually quite sad. Not sure why - either he's just a dick and it's taken me this long to fully realise it. Or it's taken him this long to show his full true colours. Or it's something else like depression.

Whichever one - I'm becoming more and more numb to him and his behaviour. It's not great.

CripsSandwiches Sun 26-Mar-17 10:42:41

Have to agree with PP. He sounds like a deeply unpleasant person, do you actually like each other?

neonrainbow Sun 26-Mar-17 10:44:56

He doesmt sound great. How can you love someone who swears at you over nothing? He sure as hell doesnt love you or he would treat you with some respect.

QueenArseClangers Sun 26-Mar-17 10:46:22

Happy Mothering Sunday love.

Treat yourself to a LTB flowers

RandomMess Sun 26-Mar-17 10:47:14

TBH that would be game over for me!!!

Who does he think he is...

doublesnap Sun 26-Mar-17 10:48:19

He's just set the bar for father's day; perhaps he needs to remember that it's still to come and the expectation for him to get anything is extremely low.

bibbetybobbetybooo Sun 26-Mar-17 10:54:29

Oh he's getting a fat sod-all for Father's Day.
His swearing has just recently really ramped up and it's horrible.

I never swear at him (unless really really pushed) and it's just not on.

I think once I can vaguely afford, I need to kick him out or leave. I don't think he'll leave, though.

Where do I stand on things if I go? The house is more mine than his (equity in family trust bond that he has legally agreed isn't his)

TheOnlyColditz Sun 26-Mar-17 10:55:48

Oh Bibbity this is really sad. It's easier to gloss over dickishness when it's just every day, but somehow it's highlighted on Mother's day, isn't it? I'd strongly suggest you don't look at facebook today, people put their best selves on there and itwill make you feel worse.

Perhaps while you are thinking about how you want this relationship to proceed, you oculd damage control the verbal abuse by simply repeating "I am tired because I am ill" every time you get a snide comment about him being lazy.

Also, regardless of how he behaves today, get some lovely snuggles in with your children and give their heads a good sniff.

PopCakes Sun 26-Mar-17 11:02:17

If you're thinking about leaving I'd get legal advice sooner rather than later (even if you're not sure or not ready to leave yet).

RedastheRose Sun 26-Mar-17 11:02:21

Sounds like you have been insulating him from having to be a proper husband and father for years (possibly always) by doing everything for him. Now that you can't, he no longer sees any worth in your relationship so is being unpleasant to you. Have a read up about narcissistic tendencies and emotionally abusive behaviour. Don't blame it on depression. I wasted 6 years when I should have left because I thought my ex's horrible treatment of me was because he was depressed (he wouldn't do anything about it though). He wasn't depressed he was a narc and our relationship had been fine through all the years of little money when he needed my income and hard work to give him an easier life. When he finally started earning decent money he thought he was more important than me so treated me like a servant because he no longer needed me!

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