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AIBU to be a bit upset

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Angela0413 Sun 26-Mar-17 09:41:42

I know I probably am, feeling bit emotional today as I really miss my own mum but my OH is just bit rubbish. Kids are 3.5 and 1 years old, I've been on my own with them last 4 days as he's been skiing and he got back very late last night. I'm not fussed about presents but it's lovely to get a card, i dream one day it will be homemade or personalised but not holding my breath. He gets personalised stuff from the boys for every birthday, Father's Day etc. He got me a random card (not a mothers day card) from airport along with a cup with a cow on it and some chocolate with nuts (I don't like chocolate with nuts). I know it's proper first world problem but it's just the lack of thought. He's sent his own mum proper card and flowers. Am I being silly cow for being bit sad? (Also made own breakfast this morning and then when sneaked off for a nice bath both boys came to keep me company whilst he watched football!).

Fortheloveofdog Sun 26-Mar-17 09:53:10

Yanbu, but yabu to keep spoiling him. I stopped with my dh and told him I will make an effort when he does. The kids will soon be making their own! flowers for you

NavyandWhite Sun 26-Mar-17 10:04:40

He should have bought you some flowers too. A cup with a cow on?! Fucking hell. What's he trying to say shock

supermoon100 Sun 26-Mar-17 10:44:25

I'm not sure I'd have agreed to ley my dh go skiing if I had a 1 and 3 year old. As for the rest of his actions, he sounds pretty selfish to me. A big deal is made of mothers day in our house

PopCakes Sun 26-Mar-17 10:59:33

Did you ask him why he sent a nice gift and card to his mum but didn't organise it for you? I'd definitely tell him I'm going out for a nice afternoon shopping/cinema/whatever you fancy while he takes care of the boys.

RiversrunWoodville Sun 26-Mar-17 11:09:24

I would be taking similar action for Father's Day tbf. Although I'm slightly jealous of your cup with the cow I got one with "Nan" on it as dd1 isn't the best at reading and DH didn't notice (in fairness though they were all trying and did make an effort). I think the fact he made an effort for his own mum would annoy me more

ohhereweareagain Sun 26-Mar-17 11:14:10

cakeflowers op I feel pretty low for similar reason today. I am at work but am not holding out for any surprises from my self absorbed 14 year old when I get back later today.

nancy75 Sun 26-Mar-17 11:16:42

Dh forgot to take dd shopping, despite her asking for weeks. This morning he has produced a half dead bunch of flowers in a plastic vase he has borrowed from work.

TisMeTheLadFromTheBar Sun 26-Mar-17 11:22:46

Don't ruin your day over him. Tell him to switch off the football and make a better effort.

Msqueen33 Sun 26-Mar-17 11:23:35

I don't know why the fuck men think this acceptable. My dh didn't get me anything on my birthday, our anniversary or for Christmas. Selfish bastard. Thankfully he's made an effort today. It's not about stuff it's about thought.

Motherof3beautfulgirls Sun 26-Mar-17 11:30:38

I think you are being a little unreasonable, and those calling him selfish? shock

And a cup with a cow on it is not trying to say anything! I think it's quite nice, mine are younger(ish) too. Il make a big deal out of it when they get older.... In the meantime.... A little lay in, a coffee and hugs is all I need smile

Angela0413 Sun 26-Mar-17 11:34:01

Thank you all!! Made me feel much better. Have took myself off to gym, had a good workout, a swim and am currently sat in sunshine waiting for my eggs benedict whilst reading magazine. He is so unbelievably rubbish at personal stuff, nice to see I'm not alone. God knows what's going through his head with the cow cup - realised it says "be happy" on the back of it. I mean WTF??? Anyways having nice time now and he's doing Bbq this afternoon as I've reminded him that as its Mother's Day i
doing no chores so if he wants to eat he has to cook. Hope you all have nice day !

Lara2 Sun 26-Mar-17 11:39:22

Stop doing stuff for him. My DH never did anything from our boys for Mother's Day; when I got upset, he said "why would I? You're not my mum!" WTF!!! So I stopped doing the nice stuff for him - no Father's Day card etc. I invited my parents for lunch, ostentatiously gave my Dad his presents and card. When DH grumbled that he'd got nothing (ie I hadn't done anything for him), I smiled sweetly and trilled "But why would I darling? You're not my dad!"
He never did it again!

NavyandWhite Sun 26-Mar-17 11:48:30

Mother he could have bought the OP some flowers at the same time he bought his own mum some.

DJBaggySmalls Sun 26-Mar-17 11:51:26

YANBU. Who wants to have it rubbed in how little the person who claims to love them knows them?

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