I'll try and put enough info in this to avoid drip feeding. My DD (18) was assaulted by her boyfriend (23) at Uni, she called us in the early hours in distress so my husband and I drove down to get her, we only live an hour away. Her bf was drunk, they started arguing when he accused her of cheating on him, he was grabbing her and pushing her around it got very loud and campus security were called. Once they had checked everything was 'ok' they left. He then locked the door (they were in his room, they both live in halls, next door to each other) and it escalated to the point where he had her pinned on the bed with his hands around her throat, he let go when she started choking but didn't let her leave until he'd spat in her face and called her a few choice names. Firstly she said she didn't want to report it, I took her to campus security and they took a statement. Once we got her home I convinced her to report it to the police, I made the initial call but she spoke to them at the station but has yet to give a formal statement. The bf has been sending her texts, ranging from admitting he did it because he was angry, no apology, to denying he's done anything wrong. I took her phone from her. DD is now saying she wishes she hadn't said anything and that it's all been blown out of proportion as it was 'just a drunken row'. I'm really cross that she's allowing him to manipulate her, it's textbook DV but she can't see it. She's got to go back to complete exams so either my husband or I are going to go down and stay with her to ensure she's safe but she has said she wants to handle it herself. I'm so concerned that she's going to sweep it under the carpet and pretend it hasn't happened. What is more, he is one of a group that she has signed up to share a house with next year, do I insist she make other arrangements? WIBU to pressure her to make a statement and press charges? We're barely speaking at the moment and I don't want to get into a position where she won't tell me if something else happens.
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AllieBomBally · 25/03/2017 21:47
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