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Woman taking about sex

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fuckoffdailysnail Fri 24-Mar-17 22:36:21

I'm currently studying at uni and had to do some group work recently. We were divided up into groups and given tasks.
The group is a fair mix of men and women aged from around 20-45ish I think.
One particular woman in the group talks constantly about sex when we meet up to get work done. This week telling everyone in the group that a man had never made her orgasm and she does it herself every night. Other times she's told the group about what sexual position she prefers and about what she likes men to do to her etc.
None of the group are particularly friendly we were put together randomly so really she is telling acquaintances quite intimate things.
I find this so strange, I understand this kind of conversation amongst good friends but AIBU to think it's off with a group of fellow students? Feel free to tell me I'm a prude blush

fuckoffdailysnail Fri 24-Mar-17 22:37:27

Should be odd not off

AFriendCalledFour Fri 24-Mar-17 22:38:52

YANBU. It sounds like attention-seeking behaviour; I'd find it very annoying, especially if I was trying to work.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Fri 24-Mar-17 22:39:09

Nominate one person from the group to tell her that actually none of you want to hear about her sex life tbh. .

showmeislands Fri 24-Mar-17 22:39:25

YANBU. I would find that odd too. How do others in the group respond to her when she says these things?

fuckoffdailysnail Fri 24-Mar-17 22:45:56

The younger members (about 20 years old) kind of laugh awkwardly-I think they're surprised anyone over 30 has sex grin
The rest of us are just bemused really, a few of the men have said they find it uncomfortable and feel like she is trying to get a reaction out of them iyswim.
We've all tried changing the subject but the woman just carries on.

AFriendCalledFour Fri 24-Mar-17 22:48:37

Is there anything to suggest she might be insecure, or trying to prove something? For instance, is she not (conventionally) very attractive?

HecateAntaia Fri 24-Mar-17 22:49:11

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Birdsgottaf1y Fri 24-Mar-17 22:50:51

Don't change the subject, be honest.

It's inappropriate. Everyone gets to set their own boundaries and if you don't want to hear about someone's sex life whilst working, then you don't have to.

She be reported and a Tutor would 'have words' on any of the courses that I've been on.

fuckoffdailysnail Fri 24-Mar-17 22:51:52

She's quite average looking really (I'm no oil painting myself!) but certainly not bad looking at all. I've wondered about mentioning it to her in a jokey way but not sure how to go about that

Patriciathestripper1 Fri 24-Mar-17 22:52:02

Omg this sounds like a girl I know too. Are you on a computer/social media course by any chance?!

Boogiewoogiebuglegirl Fri 24-Mar-17 22:52:20

I know someone who did this - it almost felt like a way for her to control the conversation if that makes sense?

fuckoffdailysnail Fri 24-Mar-17 22:53:14

No Patricia this is for a nursing degree

fuckoffdailysnail Fri 24-Mar-17 22:54:45

Yes boogie I think you could be correct! One of the men mentioned he and he wife were looking for a new car, and the woman immediately began saying how she loves having sex in the back of cars confused
Poor bloke was mortified

JCo24 Fri 24-Mar-17 23:00:17

Are you based in Bristol OP?

EatsLeavesAndShit Fri 24-Mar-17 23:01:51

Have you tried saying "that's really inappropriate, let's get back on topic." every time she says it? If it makes the others feel uncomfortable too then they'll back you up and you can gradually train her away from the weird sex talk.

She sounds ghastly by the way, I bet the man on your course never expected his 'new car' conversation to go that way...

ItchyFoot Fri 24-Mar-17 23:04:14

"No one cares about your vag" continue with course related topics

Theresnonamesleft Fri 24-Mar-17 23:06:08

Just be honest - ffs we don't want to listen about your sex life. We don't give a shot about your sex life. It's inappropriate and we are here to do x,y and z not listen to you drone on about your mundane, non-existent sex life

SparkleSunshine201 Fri 24-Mar-17 23:07:22

That's disgusting, she sounds like she is wanting to "shock" and be the centre of attention. People like that believe they are the only person in the world who does sex! I agree with pp that if she isn't conventionally attractive then perhaps she is trying to overcompensate by making out she is very "adventurous". It's gross and no one is interested. You need to tell her that she is behaving very inappropriately and you don't want to hear it.

LevantineHummus Fri 24-Mar-17 23:08:15

I'd either try speaking to her or getting your tutor to do it. After all, once she's on placements she'll presumably get into serious trouble talking like that in front of patients.

ImperialBlether Fri 24-Mar-17 23:09:51

Well, if you're going into nursing you have to be prepared for difficult conversations and inappropriate people.

You need to stop her the next time she says something. "That's not really appropriate." or "What's that got to do with John buying a car?" or "I don't think you should be talking like that, do you?"

Or you could take her to one side and ask her why she does it.

Go on, be brave!

Out2pasture Fri 24-Mar-17 23:09:52

inform your instructors this is totally inappropriate.

FlappinSwazy Fri 24-Mar-17 23:10:25

"This really isn't appropriate conversation whilst we are trying to get work done."

MMM3 Fri 24-Mar-17 23:10:51

It sounds like she's older than the rest of the group?

Maybe she's trying to be cool like you young guys? Throw it back on here- "I know your generation talked about those sorts of things, but OUR generation finds it just tacky. Fyi."

Hopefully she'll feel as mortified as she's made everyone else and will stop.

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