"She looks like a tom boy to me!"

[Saltedcaramellove]

Literally gave birth to our second daughter a few days ago. We have no boys so just our two girls. DMIL (who only has boys) told me that she only wanted sons when we were chatting a while back. Then she told me she thought I was having a boy (we didn't find out the sex). When we sent her a pic of DD once she was born, her reply was that she "looked like a tom boy"! How can a newborn look like a tom boy? It makes me feel as though they haven't got the grandson they were most probably hoping for

[Bettyandtheboy]

Just ignore them. My DM tells me every time she sees our 6 month that 'She looks like she's gonna be trouble'!
Why? Because eating your fist and dribbling is the sign of impending drug addiction? Twat!

[VestalVirgin]

She sounds bonkers.

Make sure to not expose your DD to your in-laws too much. I think you are spot on about them wanting a grandson. This kind of sexism is something best kept away from a female baby, toddler and young child until she's old enough to tell them they're bonkers.

[OffRoader]

Sounds like she's making a joke out of being wrong about the sex.

But you've just given birth and everything everyone says is allowed to piss you off

Congratulations

[zozozoo]

Diddums to them. Enjoy your girls girly ones or otherwise

[Blossomdeary]

Well that is tough shit for them!

I had 3 girls and got so sick of it when people commiserated with me - especially over the last one. I will admit to being quite rude to one person - I yanked back the pram cover and said "How dare you say you are sorry that I have this perfect baby!"

Some people are weird beyond your wildest imagination! - so sorry that your MIL falls into that category!

[Wishiwasmoiradingle2017]

Sounds like she is envious you got 2 dds and she didn't. .
Congratulations!! - bet she is a cutie!

[Saltedcaramellove]

Urghhh it's infuriating!!!!!

Definitely not said in jest offroader, it's been repeated since along with "I could be wrong but I really really think she looks like a tomboy"

So happy with my little bundle of joy though! Hormones are raging though so I just need to vent! I CANT BELIEVE THE LABELLING HAS BEGUN ALREADY!!!

Sorry, felt the need for capitals! Lol.

[ChasedByBees]

Have you pulled her up on it? Can't you tell her not to be ridiculous?

[DartmoorDoughnut]

Whilst you can still get away with it - having just given birth n all! - snap back "STOP LABELLING MY CHILDREN!!!!!!"

[DonaldStott]

Omg. That is seriously the most bonkers thing I have heard.

WTF. A newborn baby looks like a tomboy!!!

It's so fucking bizarre, you just need to laugh at it.

[Bluntness100]

Nice granny. Sigh, I agree a baby can't look like a tomboy. That's just ridiculous.

[Saltedcaramellove]

She's not met her in person yet but I'm going to pull her up. It's not on. The worst thing is I find myself hoping that i don't have a boy now because I don't want to have a son who becomes favourite and my daughters get pushed out! It's not on!

[Saltedcaramellove]

Please don't grill me for saying I wouldn't want a son, of course I would love any children and he equally delighted to have a boy and I wouldn't allow her to taint that but in my hormonal state, that's how I feel at this moment.

[Saltedcaramellove]

*be

[CointreauVersial]

Ignore, ignore, ignore......

[RosyGold]

She's DEFINITELY jealous that you have two girls and she didn't get one! My girl is nearly 16 months and still has barely any hair, I dress her to look on-trend and chic (no frilly bonnets or dresses) and people comment that she "looks like a boy" well FUCK your opinions she is a beautiful loving sweet girl regardless of the lack of hair or "girly" clothes! A baby is a baby. How can a newborn LOOK like a boy or a girl - the comments you have received are just spiteful and pure jealousy in my mind!!

[Waddlelikeapenguin]

When my DH phoned to let his parents know our first was skin side he cried BECAUSE HE WAS HAPPY - FIL asked if it was because he was disappointed that baby was a girl & then has spent his first 15 mins with each of our children describing just how tiny & perfect their cousin was

Congratulations (on baby NOT on MIL )

[seven201]

She's bonkers. Enjoy your new baby

[MiddlingMum]

Ignore her, or come up with a couple of hormonal retorts. When someone said that my newborn DD looked like a boy, I just said that personally I thought she was beautiful. It shut them up effectively.

Your DD will be totally gorgeous, congratulations

[vaginasuprise]

She's not jealous and pp saying so are just as bad as she's supposed to be.

It was a feeble attempt at humour given she had used her prophetic powers and got it wrong. Op is allowed to be extra sensitive but to those knocking boys only families....
babies are a joy regardless of their sex.

[MrsChopper]

She didn't get the grandson she wanted, so your DD is a "tomboy" i would pull her up on it asap before this 'label' sticks.

Congratulations on your new baby

[Saltedcaramellove]

vagina I've known her a decade. Trust me, it wasn't a joke in any way, shape or form.

[EweAreHere]

She's a lovely girl.

Have your Dh pull her up on it and make the comments stop.

[WhiteCaribou]

Tell her she looks like a kind and thoughtful person so it just shows how looks can be deceiving! Ok not really ...

People are weird, I can remember taking my daughter out dressed head to toe in pink with lovely curly hair and being congratulated on my lovely little boy. A newborn looks like a baby, usually not particularly either sex until they are a bit older, she's just being spiteful because she has the weird and very old fashioned idea that somehow male offspring are more desirable than female.

I'm sure the sensible thing to do is to ignore it but I'd have to call her on it, nasty woman.

[Saltedcaramellove]

This is the same lady who gifted me a lovely little book about housekeeping hints and tips I bloody hate housework!