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WIBU to have no bedroom?

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peeriebear Fri 24-Mar-17 20:19:30

I have three DCs, two bedrooms and a boxroom. Currently I can not move house; it isn't feasible. DCs 2 and 3 share the bigger room but it is becoming evident that they can not share for much longer (fairly large age gap, boy/girl)
DD1 needs a room to herself as she has SN. So she has the next smallest room and I have the box room. I am single and I hate the boxroom, I lie awake in there and normally sleep on the sofa. I don't have much stuff in there. So would it be weird and U to give my room up for youngest DC and have no bedroom?
Obviously when the time comes that we can move I will have a room again, whenever that will be. <hollow laugh>

Zampa Fri 24-Mar-17 20:21:10

Not weird or U. You can get a sofa bed as long as you don't mind the faff of making it up each morning.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Fri 24-Mar-17 20:21:31

I used to have a sofa bed in the dining room. . Only snag is no chance of a lie in!! Not likely with dc anyway tho really!

WishITookLifeSeriously Fri 24-Mar-17 20:25:08

I was going to say yabu. I have done it and it was shit! However, you're already doing it really so you're just making it officially one of the dc's rooms. If you're happy then you're definitely nbu.

Lucked Fri 24-Mar-17 20:25:09

Do get yourself some sort of proper bed downstairs and not just the sofa though. You deserve a proper bed.

Is there a dining room downstairs?

Could you make room for something like this

booellesmum Fri 24-Mar-17 20:25:20

You do what works for you and your family.
Nothing wrong with it - lots of people in bed sits with a bed settee in the living room.
Good luck for the future and your future move.

peeriebear Fri 24-Mar-17 20:25:38

My sofa is hella comfy; I usually chuck a blanket over it and there is always a duvet in the living room anyway. It's just my clothes storage really. But I can figure something out; right, project on.

LoupGarou Fri 24-Mar-17 20:26:46

Sounds sensible, could you get or make a Murphy bed for yourself?

Astro55 Fri 24-Mar-17 20:27:52

If your child in the big room has space - put a wardrobe in there for you and keep basics in a chest of drawers downstairs

Lucked Fri 24-Mar-17 20:28:23

Link was meant to be to a vertical/wall bed.

LoupGarou Fri 24-Mar-17 20:29:58

Great minds then Lucked smile

BagittoGo Fri 24-Mar-17 20:30:28

Do what you have to do to make it work for your family. I've read of lots of families that use main living room to sleep in.

Iwantawhippet Fri 24-Mar-17 20:33:09

Great idea! In Japan, that is how families sleep - parents on futon mattresses in living room.

FuzzyOwl Fri 24-Mar-17 20:38:37

Sounds a good idea to me. Could you make it so whichever of DC 2 and 3 keeps the bigger bedroom has to have your wardrobe and clothes etc in there so in effect you two share the room, but you actually sleep on the sofa?

sharksscareme Fri 24-Mar-17 20:39:34

I think that would be best. I don't know why so many people don't do it to be honest.

Pansiesandredrosesandmarigolds Fri 24-Mar-17 20:42:29

Would any of these ideas work?

WormwoodScrubbed Fri 24-Mar-17 20:47:39

It's not unusual, I haven't had a bedroom for years and use the living room

maddiemookins16mum Fri 24-Mar-17 20:49:14

According to MN, all kids co sleep with their parents in one giant bed anyway. Problem solved.

lavenderandrose Fri 24-Mar-17 20:49:42

Think you're confusing the whole of mn with Artandco.

Sofabitch Fri 24-Mar-17 20:50:23

Can you get a room divider for the biggest room to give each Dc some privacy?

As they get older you'll appreciate having your own space more and more. I personally wouldn't despite considering it many times

I've also seen a cool space saving divide where the bunk bed was used as the divider and partitions built from the bunk bed on opposite sides for top and bottom.

BrioLover Fri 24-Mar-17 20:52:23

YANBU, especially if you're not really using the room to sleep anyway!

We might end up in the same situation too, we have a tiny two bedroom house and DC2 on the way. DS1 has ASD.

Xenophile Fri 24-Mar-17 20:59:20

I did it for years, and it was just fine, I had a sofa bed that I left made up when I folded it away, and had a chest of drawers in the cupboard under the stairs.

DiamondIntRuff Fri 24-Mar-17 21:04:02

OP I have been in this situation so can sympathise. My eldest still sleeps in bed with me. But things can change with SN children - my youngest with AS & severe anger issues used to kick off at bedtime and take his anger out on his sibling. And whilst he still does that in the daytime occasionally, he now understands that 'bedtime' means he stays in his room and his older sibling is the only one with him and 'in charge'.

Do you have an attick? Could you convert the attick for yourself or the two other children?

Absintheshots Fri 24-Mar-17 21:04:34

Nothing wrong with that at all! It will be many (many... ) years until the kids go to bed after you - and wake up before you. Even then you can always close the door grin

The only con for me is that you have to make your bed every day so the room looks tidy (but frankly, I always make my bed anyway). The living room is our "adult room", so in theory we could tell the kids to go and play in their rooms and leave us alone. In practice, there are toys everywhere.. <sigh>

As long as you have a very comfortable bed/ sofa, go for it. You already have one otherwise for a cheap one I would have suggested the Hemnes day bed from Ikea. It's everywhere, but it's really comfy and you can sleep on it without opening it every time.

rightsaidfrederickII Fri 24-Mar-17 21:06:09

YANBU - it's not ideal for you, but you have to do what is best for you and your family, and it sounds like this is probably it.

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