My brother suffers from a personality disorder and to a great extent his problems aren't his own fault but he's a massive bully. He manipulates my mum and me and thinks nothing of screaming at us. By way of an example last week he asked me to take him food shopping. He knows I can't stop outside his house for more than a few minutes as it's a cpz and I'd arranged a specific time to collect him. When he wasn't ready I politely said I'm going to have to drive off and he screamed at me and hung up. He then called me back when he reached his destination and threatened to commit suicide if I didn't give him a lift ( he threatens suicide whenever he doesn't get his own way). When I went back to collect him he still kept me waiting over 5 minutes in a cpz and didn't thank me just launched into a rant about how he's going to complain to the council about the bin men not putting the bin back in the right place.
He terrorises my mum and makes her life a living hell.
He recently locked me in his flat and wouldn't let me out because I was helping him fill in a benefits form but I went to leave when he started screaming at me. He only let me out when I threatened to call the police.
He is so horrible to everyone but I feel really pressured now because he's decided (for no apparent reason) that I am his "only family" now.
He has an awful girl friend who emails my mum threatening her and asking money from her.
My sister forgot to close his freezer when he went on holiday and he and his girlfriend have been sending abusive messages to my sister demanding she pay them £100 for the contents of the freezer (my brother is a vegan so there would not have been anything worth half that in the freezer and it was an accident).
He sent me an abusive text out of the blue today. I haven't been I touch because I have a trapped nerve in my shoulder and have been prescribed strong medication for this.
I suffer from really bad anxiety and when I am not around him my anxiety levels are so much less.
I have blocked him on my phone and this has made my mum and sister angry with me but I just feel like for my sanity I cannot have him in my life regardless of his problems. I do not want to end up as his carer and he seems to be getting worse and worse.
He has a great deal of contact with mental health services and has a girlfriend so he is not alone.
I just don't want anything to do with him but I feel guilty
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mamma12 · 24/03/2017 16:16
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