Guys please help me!
This is bugging me and honestly I can't make sense of it!
I've posted quite a lot on here under different names about my ex and I, how he was with me & how he left me blah blah blah poor me and all that crap.
Anyways, the first thing people say is he abused me mentally & physically (hit me across the face once).
However I feel that although it's viewed as abuse and a lot of abusers have the same traits, they can't possibly know they are doing it?
Maybe they start off with great intentions??
Maybe they can't help it??
Can't see what they are doing??
Oh it's so bloody complex!
I don't quite understand it.
I get the who manipulation, I.E when you want something I don't know, someone to buy something for you....that whole "cute" "oh please buy me this for my birthday, il love you for ever!"....it's not abuse it's just you know a way to get something you want!
However when it goes too far & you are being controlled to the point you aren't you anymore, do you really think the abuser thinks "this is exactly what I planned? She's under the thumb and will do as I say?"
Sorry if I've lost you, to be completely honest, I've confused myself!!
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AIBU?
To think an abuser (mentally) doesn't know what he/she is doing?
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Toobloodytired · 23/03/2017 22:56
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