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AIBU to think this is racism showed by DS's school?

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user1490294831 Thu 23-Mar-17 19:01:59

My DS is 12. He is African-American. They have an end of year show where children audition to perform an act. DS dances and auditioned with that. I told him to prepare to not get in because I'm sure lots of children will audition. So we aren't bothered that he didn't get a part.

However, he was told by the 'judges' (teachers from music department) that 'lots of black children can dance, so it doesn't seem original enough for the show'. Spoke to lady from the music department who said that it was a compliment?

I don't know really who is in the wrong with their thinking.

BarbarianMum Thu 23-Mar-17 19:04:23

shock That is..............bloody awful. And wrong, on so many levels. Where do you live?

Emphasise Thu 23-Mar-17 19:04:53

shock is this in UK?

Shallishanti Thu 23-Mar-17 19:05:36

are you in the UK?
if so you should make an official complaint, that is racism pure and simple

DiversAlarums Thu 23-Mar-17 19:06:58

YANBU shock that is racist

Buck3t Thu 23-Mar-17 19:07:27

I think you know you don't need to ask. Please don't say it's the UK. Please don't.

Bringbackpublicfloggings Thu 23-Mar-17 19:08:19

That's a terrible thing to say, he is being judged by the colour of his skin. Definitely complain.

Cloudhopping Thu 23-Mar-17 19:08:23


Gatehouse77 Thu 23-Mar-17 19:08:39

My first thought was "What a bitch!". I can't decide if it's racist but it's definitely unprofessional and I would be inclined to mention it to her line manager (Head of dept?).

Meowstro Thu 23-Mar-17 19:09:30

They need to be called out on this. It's either a talent or not, race shouldn't factor into that. It's dangerous thinking that has no place whether, especially not in schools.

Brokenbiscuit Thu 23-Mar-17 19:09:53

That's shocking. Please complain. Your son's talent should not be minimised because of the colour of his skin.

Meowstro Thu 23-Mar-17 19:10:02

*no place anywhere

harderandharder2breathe Thu 23-Mar-17 19:11:02

That's horrendous!

It's still not giving him a part because of the colour of his skin so definitely racist imo

Feebeela Thu 23-Mar-17 19:11:09

WTAF? Unbelievable. It's not a compliment, it's racism pure and simple. Would you say that lots of White children play guitar or Asians play the violin so it's not original? Raise an official complaint.

SasBel Thu 23-Mar-17 19:11:37

Say what? Awful. Complain, educate and ensure that it does not happen again.

TreeTop7 Thu 23-Mar-17 19:13:03

That is bonkers. Completely unacceptable. What possessed her?!

Meowstro Thu 23-Mar-17 19:14:18

By the way it's benign ignorance which is a form of indirect racism. They genuinely don't know it's wrong and it's important they do, they can't go around alienating kids like that.

user1490294831 Thu 23-Mar-17 19:14:26

No, we are not UK, we live in New York, but it surprises me because there is quite a few African-Americans in NY.

That's the thing Gatehouse77 I can't decide if it definitely is or not and don't want to be seen as pulling the 'racist card' just because he didn't get in and I am sure lots of children would probably say that to him.

Spam88 Thu 23-Mar-17 19:21:53

It is 100% racist.

Brokenbiscuit Thu 23-Mar-17 19:22:53

It's definitely racist. No question.

Moanyoldcow Thu 23-Mar-17 19:23:16

Jesus I hate people sometimes. What a shitty thing to say. It's racist and also really undermines your son's talent.

I'd be making a complaint for sure.

2017SoFarSoGood Thu 23-Mar-17 19:24:40

yes it is racist. Totally. Ignorance personified.

Pebbles16 Thu 23-Mar-17 19:26:42

This is racist and horrible. No such thing as the racist card in this situation.

M0stlyBowlingHedgehog Thu 23-Mar-17 19:28:23

Straight up racist without a doubt.

I see your worry about being seen to be playing the "racism" card. Could you make it clear that your issue is not that your son didn't get the part, that you'd already prepared him for that idea, but that rather your issue is with the racism inherent in the comment?

I find it extraordinary that a school in NY wouldn't be on top of this - I thought the big American cities were really hot on tackling racism (some of the places in the sticks not so much maybe...)

JigglyTuff Thu 23-Mar-17 19:30:03

Of course it's racist. I'd be furious

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