Nothing major but still annoyed

[Goggleboggle]

In the grand scheme of things I realaie this isn't that important but I can't help feel pissed off. My not so darling Sil never sends my kids birthday cards or even Christmas cards on time. Between them they've had over 20 birthdays yet every single time she sends their cards usually two weeks late and once over a month late.

It bloody well grinds me considering she's family and I've never so much as once missed her three kids birthdays and always make sure my nieces have their cards the day before so that they can open them on the morning of their birthdays and if I have a present I usually pop round after school to give it to them. Now I do not expect presents or money in cards, all I want is a card on time for my kids. It was my dd's birthday last month and my ds's yesterday yet my Sil came round with a card (and nearly made me die of shock) but it turned out she'd brought my dd's (a month late) and hadn't even bothered bringing a card for my ds who's actual birthday it was. What gets me as well is that she not so subtly reminds me it's her kids birthdays about three weeks before despite me having them etched in my memory and on a calendar at home and my Mil reminds me and dh too. Yet when my dh said to his mum that his Dsis hadn't even bothered sending our kids cards she just made excuses for her saying she's got a lot on.

[Soubriquet]

It's frustrating I get it

My sister hasn't bought anything for my children the last two christmases and failed to get my Ds anything for his birthday. It's my Dd's on Sunday and I'm not expecting anything from her again.

Makes me so cross because I've never failed to buy her children.

Her Dd had a birthday in may and I'm taking the stance of well I guess we aren't doing birthdays and Christmas for each other anymore.

If she dares to say anything, she will have head bitten off pretty quickly

[Brighteyes27]

My sis is like that too but not quite that bad. She is usually only a day or two late though but still winds me up

[Goggleboggle]

Lol I don't blame you. Usually I don't let petty things bother me but both my kids have asked me why they don't get a card off their auntie. I get her kids lovely cards and sometimes make them (I was bought a card design thing for Xmas) and make an effort to ensure they get them on time. Plus my nieces have told my kids that she has spent their birthday money on wine and take a ways which is not on so I've started buying them gift vouchers now for shops like smyths JD sports and toys r us. That way at least I know the kids will get something.

[Goggleboggle]

She always says she has no money but I don't expect her to buy them anything a card will do.

[WorraLiberty]

If it wasn't for you, would her kids get cards and presents from your husband?

[Goggleboggle]

Oh god yes. He used to spoil them rotten when we first got together and didn't have kids of out own. They still get treated just not as much as back then but they still g et nice cards and gifts at Xmas and on their birthdays.

[RandomMess]

SIL was like this she is no longer speaking to us because DH forgot to send her b'day card which was apparently my fault even they know it's responsibility. People like that are just self centred and not worth bothering with.

MIL is the same too can't admit SIL's faults!

[WorraLiberty]

Yes but the cards and gifts are bought by you aren't they?

I was just wondering if you didn't bother, would he?

[Sparkletastic]

Ask your DB to take over the responsibility or agree not to bother in either direction any more.