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Is this flirting??

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stephie111 Thu 23-Mar-17 16:58:40

Recently read a message from my partner to someone single she's recently met saying 'I'm sure you have your pick of girls' is this just a compliment.. Or could it be read as she likes this person?!
What would u think?!

Bailey101 Thu 23-Mar-17 17:02:40

It depends on the context. She could have been sad about getting dumped and it was a 'plenty more fish in the sea' type comment or it could have been flirty. What did the other messages say?

Applebite Thu 23-Mar-17 17:05:08

I told my ex's brother he was gorgeous and any girl would be lucky to have him. I was absolutely NOT flirting at the time; my ex was right there!

But equally it could be flirty in different circumstances.

It's all about the context.

qualityjaisket Thu 23-Mar-17 17:05:29

Yep, depends on context. Why were you reading her messages, do you already have suspicions?

CarryOnSusan Thu 23-Mar-17 17:58:34

Totally depends on context, you will know your partners personality best and if it looks like flirting it probably is.

TheNaze73 Thu 23-Mar-17 18:05:42

It's a compliment, not a flirt

stephie111 Fri 24-Mar-17 22:50:51

We're pretty open with stuff. A inbox conversation popped up on her phone from a name I didn't recognise. There were emotions (smilegrin) in it. Which I thought were a bit flirty. So I clicked on it. We aren't usually paranoid about phones and share use of them so didn't think that much of looking. It was imo slightly flirty chat and then she said u need urself a girl and he said, yeah I need to find one and she said I'm sure u could have u pick?!

qualityjaisket Fri 24-Mar-17 23:24:43

Would need to know the "slightly flirty chat" that went beforehand in order to make a proper judgement but non, I wouldn't read anything dodgy into that. If anything it would indicate that she isn't interested in him and is telling him (if he has shown any interest in her, again would need to know what chat has gone before) that he should look elsewhere.

Asmoto Fri 24-Mar-17 23:38:10

It sounds more consolatory than flirtatious.

EverythingEverywhere1234 Fri 24-Mar-17 23:44:10

I'm pretty appalled you'd break your DPs trust based on seeing a couple of emojis to be honest. That doesn't look at all dodgy. Your behaviour does.

stephie111 Sat 25-Mar-17 00:04:29

How am I breaking her trust?

stephie111 Sat 25-Mar-17 00:05:35

We practically share phones, we often open eachothers texts we don't really hide anything. I'm not doing anything wrong to her looking. She's welcome to look at anything on mine. I just wondered what ppl made of that comment that's all

EverythingEverywhere1234 Sat 25-Mar-17 00:23:46

Well if you think that's normal, I don't think I can convince you it's not. I find it weird tho. Why would you want to read her messages based on 'I don't know that name'?! Weird. You don't trust her, clearly.

stephie111 Sat 25-Mar-17 18:37:16

No, we just share everything... She wasn't at all bothered I'd looked at it. Like I wouldn't be if she looked at mine which she has done too. If my phone buzzes I'll often ask her to read that messege for me if I've got my hands full. She will too.

ThePiglet59 Sat 25-Mar-17 22:39:07

I would go with your gut instinct,
This is dodgy

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