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user1490210924 Wed 22-Mar-17 19:38:15

So I'm 39 weeks pregnant and for the last few days I have killed myself doing stuff around the house batch cooking dinners for after I give birth and looking after ds. Last night I ended up feeling so sick with headaches and dizziness and after a trip to the doctors this afternoon he said it was just end of pregnancy and that was it. I've stayed in bed resting all day with ds watching movies and still feel rubbish. Now my AIBU is my OH came home from work asking what's for dinner. I told him I hadn't cooked anything today as I feel awful and he moans at me saying I could have at least taken something out of the freezer. I have had dinner on the table every night last few weeks I've been off AIBU to forgoe it one night? BTW he's off takeaways as he wants to eat more healthily which is fair enough I respect that.

gamerchick Wed 22-Mar-17 19:39:47

No he can make the tea for a change. What's he going to be like with a newborn in the house?

fc301 Wed 22-Mar-17 19:41:00


memyselfandaye Wed 22-Mar-17 19:42:54

He is, selfish prick.

Tallkala Wed 22-Mar-17 19:43:42

Of course yanbu. I'm sure he can prepare a quick meal given you're heavily pregnant and feeling unwell.

Although I suspect loads of superwives will be along to say you could have thrown something together.

Bukkaroo Wed 22-Mar-17 19:44:14


squeak10 Wed 22-Mar-17 19:44:35

He is being vu. You take it easy

Slightlyperturbedowlagain Wed 22-Mar-17 19:45:50

YANBU, he is

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Wed 22-Mar-17 19:46:28

Tell him this last week is a dummy run for when the baby is here!!

44PumpLane Wed 22-Mar-17 19:46:46

Oh bollocks to him! We eat batch cooked meals from the freezer regularly without prior defrosting, if he can't even manage that tell him to do one!

IamFriedSpam Wed 22-Mar-17 19:47:28

YANBU the lazy git, why can't he defrost something or whip up a quick meal for all of you since you're pregnant and feeling terrible!

worriedsick2017 Wed 22-Mar-17 19:48:12

He's a grown man I'm sure he can cook his own dinner! Rest up and take it easy xx

Hellmouth Wed 22-Mar-17 19:48:17

Omg what a prick.

I am astounded by some of the stories I see on here sometimes. My DP would have just said "cool, shall we treat ourselves" and we would have ordered in cos he admits he is not the best cook :D

greeeen Wed 22-Mar-17 19:52:33


user1490210924 Wed 22-Mar-17 19:53:37

Update I told him I wasn't cooking tonight full stop and there was lasagnes, quiches and shepherds pie all in freezer in individual containers to take his pick. I think he's just in bad form with stuff going on in his job but I wasn't backing down either.

ChasedByBees Wed 22-Mar-17 19:54:57

It's pretty outrageous that he tries that on with a heavily pregnant woman, regardless of what else is going on in his life.

ThePiglet59 Wed 22-Mar-17 20:24:30

You could have thrown something together before you skived off to bed.

NavyandWhite Wed 22-Mar-17 20:27:30

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NavyandWhite Wed 22-Mar-17 20:29:10

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ClemDanfango Wed 22-Mar-17 20:31:01

OP my DP got in at 6.30pm and saw me wiped out on the sofa breastfeeding our ratty and teething 10 month old, he said "babe you look worn out, I'll make us some dinner just chill." that is the response you should have had!

RiversrunWoodville Wed 22-Mar-17 20:36:44

Of course yabvu whilst preparing his dinner ready to have on the table, anticipating his exact arrival time you should also have stuck a brush up your arse and brushed the floor! Least that's probably what I'd have asked him was he expecting but then I'm in a mood.
Meanwhile here's some cake and flowers and I hope you have your feet up and are feeling better (or as good as anyone ever feels at 39 weeks)

acquiescence Wed 22-Mar-17 20:43:50

In response to your suggestion has he said 'no you must cook me something' or 'yes ok then'. If the former then yes he is bu, if the latter then there isn't an issue really.

emmyrose2000 Thu 23-Mar-17 05:50:34


wettunwindee Thu 23-Mar-17 07:28:58

I could have at least taken something out of the freezer

This is very true. If you were bedridden all day then you shouldn't have done it especially but if you were up then taking out a frozen tupperwhere of whatever for him to cook for both of you later seems fairly reasonable.

DH is a great cook and enjoys it (and is fairly anal with regard to preparedness). At 30 weeks he bought a chest freezer and began batch cooking. If your husband isn't too competent in the kitchen then I can see why it was left to you.

When I broke my ankle, I did always take something out of the freezer for DH. Chicken breast, bit of pork or what have you.

Have I read the same post as others who seem to think he wanted you to have a meal waiting?

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