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QueueCue Wed 22-Mar-17 11:19:22

Ds is in year 5. Since September he has lost two sets of pe shirts at school.
I refused to buy another pair and said he'd have to take his own shorts in which are the same colour as the school shorts but adidas....he lost them after one pe session.

I refused to buy another pair and asked him to contribute £5 from his own money to buy another pair of school pe shorts. Which he did. I thought maybe he'd take more care of them seeing as he'd paid towards them....he lost them after one session.

All these shorts are named and I've looked in lost property myself and they're not there. He has a locker so his pe kit is locked away when he's not wearing it.

Aibu to buy another pair of school shorts and embroider his name, in a bright colour to the outside of the shorts on one of the legs? No one can possibly take them then can they? And if they did by accident, surely they'd get back to him?

QueueCue Wed 22-Mar-17 11:19:46

That should say pe shorts

JonesyAndTheSalad Wed 22-Mar-17 11:20:34

Are you going into school to help him look for them? Have you checked lost property?

Universitychallenging Wed 22-Mar-17 11:21:25

You know that wouldn't be fair but I understand the frustration. I'd be going to his teacher and asking that they ask around the other kids and see if they can find out where all his stuff is going.

QueueCue Wed 22-Mar-17 11:23:32

I've checked the lost property myself they're not there-there are lots of lovely winter coats though!

And I've spoken to the teacher and she's said she's asked the dc to check their kit but I've had none returned....

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 22-Mar-17 11:24:20

Str you sure no one is taking them. How do you lose that many clothes between a bag and a locker...

Doesn't add up.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Wed 22-Mar-17 11:25:34

Is he flush??
Sounds like he has a lucrative business going on!!

QueueCue Wed 22-Mar-17 11:27:04

I do think someone is taking them. We've had one pair of shorts back and they were thread bare so a nice pair of new shorts prob seem a good opportunity. But surely they wouldn't take them if they had his name on the outside of them?

Ds is such a dolly daydream but it's so frustrating

alltouchedout Wed 22-Mar-17 11:28:58

Is he being bullied?

Newtothis2017 Wed 22-Mar-17 11:29:11

I actually think that is a great idea

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 22-Mar-17 11:29:58

Well you could so his name on. But I'd get inclined to deal with the school and the klepto kids first.

We all take someone else's stuff home occasionally. Usually u wash and return. Keeping it is just wrong.angry

xStefx Wed 22-Mar-17 11:30:03

I feel your pain. Paid £12 for school cardigans and an extra £7 to have the school logo put on them. 3 were lost between September and Feb (all had her name on) . I told DD who is 5 that im not replacing them and that she will have to wear last years cardis (which aren't that small on her). Ive also forbid her to take off her cardi in school now (I do feel a bit man about that) but she hasn't lost one since lol

QueueCue Wed 22-Mar-17 11:32:01

We talk every day about school and he tells me if there are any problems or incidents at school.

He's got a good character so he'll chat to anyone but he definitely gives as good as he gets! I'm pretty sure there's no issues at school.

He was laughing when I said that's what I was thinking of doing to his shorts

QueueCue Wed 22-Mar-17 11:33:09

Oh he's lost two school jumpers too at £15 a pop. I'm not replacing those.

TheMysteriousJackelope Wed 22-Mar-17 11:33:51

The PE coach at the DC's school has the children write their names in black sharpie in huge letters on the outside of their PE kits. We haven't lost anything in nearly three years and no one appears traumatized.

ChocChocPorridge Wed 22-Mar-17 11:54:34

Not embroidery, that can be unpicked. Bleach pen. Nothing to be done about a bleach pen - better even than sharpie if there's a place it can be put (Leg on shorts is good, inside of jumpers on one of the bands)

00100001 Wed 22-Mar-17 11:55:18

lots of schools have initials on outside of shorts, tops etc, for this very reason!

Itmustbemyage Wed 22-Mar-17 11:57:30

Well they haven't just evaporated have they? Unless the school is running a big second hand uniform black market ring not really
Even if your DS was just leaving them lying around, they are either in the school somewhere, or some other child has taken them home to parents who can't be bothered to return them. If the only way your son can keep his stuff is to hold it in a death grip it or watch it at all times I would be having a word with the school and asking it to be mentioned in the next parents bulletin, perhaps there could be a uniform amnesty where any one other parents could return any items that may have ended up at their house to the school with no questions asked. Then maybe your DS could be happily reunited with his belongings.

cheesuskriste Wed 22-Mar-17 11:59:09

Where do you get bleach pens from?

rogueantimatter Wed 22-Mar-17 11:59:44

Great idea Jackelope

Is wearing his shorts under his trousers a possibility?

DS got a slip paperclipped to his school diary every week when he was 8. 'DS did not have his PE kit today'. I used to reply saying, 'I know, he has lost it in school'. Nothing ever seemed to happen. confused

scaryteacher Wed 22-Mar-17 12:05:32

You can get big name tapes to sew on the outside of sports kit...they work!

Blinkingblimey Wed 22-Mar-17 12:06:38

How about just patching his initials onto the bottom of either leg of the shorts in a bright but sensible colour? A. Makes it obvious they're his and B. 2 initials is a lot less faff than a whole first and sur name😁😅!

Lochan Wed 22-Mar-17 12:06:49

If he has a locker then for someone to be stealing them presumably they are actually breaking into the locker?

How is that possible?

I think it's more likely that your DS just doesn't bother putting them in the locker and they get lost that way.

Why would a thief steal 4 pairs of shorts?

Or do you think that there are 4 dishonest peers in his class?

I'm sorry to appear unsympathetic but I do find it interesting that some kids lose things all the time and some kids go through school never losing anything.

I suspect the difference is the responsibility the individual takes with their stuff rather than the prevalence of school age criminals.

GeorgiePeachie Wed 22-Mar-17 12:07:30

What if this is not about him loosing them but other children taking them to get him in trouble. Weird bullying tactic? as the children aren't coming forward with who's taken them...?

Ask him what happens when they get back into uniform and why the pe kit doesnt go back into his bag?

TisMeTheLadFromTheBar Wed 22-Mar-17 12:09:48

I would check if he is being bullied. It seems strange that he would lose two pairs and not notice. He might be an easy target if he is quiet or passive.

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