My brother and I are both adults. He has a family and works from home. I am single and live alone. We all live in the same now.
Our parents are in their sixties/ seventies. They are redecorating some rooms at the moment. Initially my brother (who's background is design and has worked on his own house etc) said he would help with the wallpapering / painting etc. So far it hasn't happened.
My mum today said that if it continues it looks like she is doing the whole thing herself. I will help out when I can.
My dad can be difficult to get on with. But he is generous in other ways. Like a number of times he has gone into town to pick my brother up from a night out or babysat at the last minute.
There is this activity my dad likes to go to once every so often on a weekend. He hope my brother and his children will go along, but often they are vague or say no. This may not be relevant to the overall issue, but it's one more area. My brother said no recently then I saw him posting on Facebook later about a game he was playing.
It's my mum I feel for - she works so hard for all of us and this means something to her. He has lots of time for other things. When his family are away she is left to feed their rabbits and water plants check post etc.
He is generally a caring and approachable person. It makes me frustrated with him. I want to go round to his house and talk to him. Is it my place? Will he take it the wrong way and it backfires?
TL DR: I think my brother is selfish by breaking promises and taking advantage of my parents. Should I say this to him?
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I think my brother is being selfish. Should I talk to him?
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blankpieceofpaper · 21/03/2017 22:50
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