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By not having ended my call when dh called for a plaster?

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ChangingStates Tue 21-Mar-17 22:34:29

Trying to keep this short(ish) so will skip the preamble...
I am on the phone to my sister (overseas) in the front room, dh is cooking. I hear an 'ow' & he calls for a plaster. I stay on the phone but go and get the plaster & antiseptic cream, go into the kitchen, still with my sister on the line but not actually talking to her- he has cut into the nail and skin below- not deep enough to bleed much and is not bleeding when he takes tissue away. I apply plaster, to lots of ow & sucked breath. I ask if he needs me to help with the cooking, he gives me a sarcastic "no, you carry on". He's obviously not happy so I go into the other room end the call straightaway & go back in. Repeat offer of help, sarcastic reply, a bit of back & forth followed by me being blasted for being rude for having come into the kitchen with the phone, for not having hung up straightaway and for not stepping in and taking over without him having to say yes to my asking if he needed help.

AIBU for not putting the phone done when I went in the kitchen or is he for not having just said 'yes' when I asked if he wanted help?

I know this seems petty but we are not in a good place and haven't been for a while so small things carry a whole backlog of feeling!

PuntasticUsername Tue 21-Mar-17 22:35:52

YANBU, and he is being a passive-aggressive twonk.

DangerousBeanz Tue 21-Mar-17 22:38:01

My DH wouldn't have even called me in unless his whole finger was lying severed on the worktop.
Your DH is a wuss and bvu.

blackteasplease Tue 21-Mar-17 22:39:57

Yes, why did you have to go in at all?

I don't call for someone else if I cut myself when cooking.

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt Tue 21-Mar-17 22:40:16

Dear god. He sounds like a complete baby!

neonrainbow Tue 21-Mar-17 22:41:04

God what a big baby!!

SellMySoulForSomeSleep Tue 21-Mar-17 22:41:48

What a wimp! Obviously yanbu.

monkeyfacegrace Tue 21-Mar-17 22:43:12

It was a cut finger 😂
And you find him attractive enough to sleep with <shudder>
He needs to grow the fuck up.

gillybeanz Tue 21-Mar-17 22:43:17

Normal people just put a plaster on. What would he have done if you weren't there?
Ha ha, just tell him the world doesn't revolve around him.

PragmaticWench Tue 21-Mar-17 22:43:38

He was being pathetic and passive aggressive. Attractive characteristics there.

Don't doubt yourself.

elephantoverthehill Tue 21-Mar-17 22:43:44

I think you have said it all. No help at all, but you have reminded me about exdh. I was on the phone to his DM and she was asking whether we wanted to go to Sunday lunch with them. I relayed the request and was told he was making a roux and could not possibly answer any questions as he was busy confused. You need to get things back on track and get back to the basics of your relationship. flowers

BestZebbie Tue 21-Mar-17 22:43:54

Assuming that you'd have hung up if he needed CPR or something, YANBU. :-)

ThreeFish Tue 21-Mar-17 22:46:03

That is actually funny!
He's a muppet. That's the nicest thing I can think of to say, when he has the audacity to blame you for him being a drama llama.

Justmuddlingalong Tue 21-Mar-17 22:46:10

Only if you replaced the word 'cooking' in your post with 'open heart surgery', would YBU.

nocoolnamesleft Tue 21-Mar-17 22:47:21

What a wuss.

JuniDD Tue 21-Mar-17 22:51:19

My 2 year old DD can put a plaster on herself.
Would he be expected to do the same for you if the situation was reversed?

ChangingStates Tue 21-Mar-17 22:53:18

Thank you- so reassured! He is really good at getting me to doubt myself and I end up trying to fix things and make things better- really must grow a backbone!
We are in therapy, for lots of reasons, will be bringing this to the next session.

Weedsnseeds1 Tue 21-Mar-17 22:55:47

Do you have any of that extra-wide cloth plaster? The sort that comes on a roll and is really hard to peel off ? Feels like your skin is coming with it? Cut a decent length, stick it over his mouth and call your sister back.

Trb17 Tue 21-Mar-17 23:02:24

As well as a plaster, offer him some cheese with his 'whine' next time. YANBU. He's a wuss.

notangelinajolie Tue 21-Mar-17 23:05:03

Would you have been upset if the rolls were reversed?

Benedikte2 Tue 21-Mar-17 23:05:46

You made me LOL weeds.
OP you are NBU

OneSecondAfter Tue 21-Mar-17 23:07:43

and is not bleeding when he takes tissue away. I apply plaster, to lots of ow & sucked breath

I couldn't read beyond this point because I already knew the answer was no YANBU.

I had to check that your title said DH and not DS

Awwlookatmybabyspider Tue 21-Mar-17 23:09:55

How rude of him to be creating like that. When you're on the phone.
He's an adult. Not a little 5 year old

DragonFire99 Tue 21-Mar-17 23:10:18

FFS. Agree with everyone else. I would have sucked my finger, applied plaster, carried on cooking.

Your h is a great big girl's blouse.

QueenArseClangers Tue 21-Mar-17 23:11:45

Fuck me. What a soft arse.

If it was a one off I'd be forgiving but from your subsequent posts I'd be calling it a day in the relationship.

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