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To not complain about the KFC drivethru man?

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BillyButtfuck Tue 21-Mar-17 21:43:44

I've just been to pick up KFC for me and DP. I went on my own as babies are in bed and DP still working from home.
The man working behind the drive thru was very forward and called me gorgeous. I awkwardly smiled, took my food and said thanks, didn't think anymore of it.
DP was taking the food out from the bag and came across a note on a napkin saying 'send pics' with the following info.

snapchat: username
Instagram: username

I've had a stalk on his Facebook and he's mutual friends with my best friends little brother and he's 17. I'm 23.

I think just leave it, throw it away and next time send DP to pick up our weekly monthly KFC, DP is quite annoyed about it.

His main point is that it's really inappropriate and if he did it to someone in an abusive/jealous relationship there could be trouble for an innocent woman. He said if he had randomly found a guys snapchat with 'send pics' on my pocket he would assume I'm messing about.

He thinks I should complain. I just want to leave it, it's more hassle than it's worth.

WWYD?

bloodymaria Tue 21-Mar-17 21:45:17

What a creep! I would complain.

Beardsareweird Tue 21-Mar-17 21:45:42

Start going to Pizza Hut.

BillyButtfuck Tue 21-Mar-17 21:46:52

DP says Pizza Hut don't do gravy!

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Tue 21-Mar-17 21:47:20

Why not just take it as a complement? Why is everyone a pervert these days?
The op just admitted having a 'stalk'!!

expatinscotland Tue 21-Mar-17 21:48:45

I'd leave it.

Beardsareweird Tue 21-Mar-17 21:50:29

Ah, no gravy is a problem!! Seriously, though, the bloke stepped out lof line and I think you should complain. It's not like he just gave you his phone number, but wanted you to send him photos. Sounds pervy.

Imstickingwiththisone Tue 21-Mar-17 21:50:29

Because asking a stranger to send pictures of themselves to you when the stranger just wanted to buy a bucket of greasy delicious chicken IS perverted. A compliment would have been fine.

Shurleyshummishtake Tue 21-Mar-17 21:53:05

Why would you just leave it?

Your DP is quite right- that sort of messagecould cause huge issues for some women and really scare women who feel vulnerable or who have been stalked or hassled in the past.

He needs to know that isn't ok.

I'd be going in to see his manager.

Onemorewonthurt Tue 21-Mar-17 21:55:08

This is minor, particularly if he is only 17, get over it

BillyButtfuck Tue 21-Mar-17 21:56:03

By Facebook stalk I didn't mean stalking in that sense I just meant I had a look to see if it was the guy who served me or not. If I do complain I'd want to be sure it was the same/ right person and not a mistake or a napkin put in the wrong bag. I wouldn't want to get an innocent party in trouble.

ThreeFish Tue 21-Mar-17 21:56:31

I'd be talking to his manager as well.
He's 17 and needs to learn that's not acceptable behaviour.

ThePiglet59 Tue 21-Mar-17 21:58:13

I wonder if he's doing it to younger girls too?

VeryBitchyRestingFace Tue 21-Mar-17 21:58:32

I find the "send pictures" element pretty grim.

I'd be inclined to do just that though - pictures of my washing/ironing/dirty dinner plates.

PeridotPeridot Tue 21-Mar-17 21:59:48

Send pics? Ew.

If it had been a note with his name and number..or snapchat details with 'message me' or similar, I'd laugh and take it as a compliment.

But 'send pics' is just rude and pervy and completely inappropriate.

GreyDey Tue 21-Mar-17 21:59:55

I would report to his manager. Not acceptable.

MadMags Tue 21-Mar-17 22:00:57

I'm with your dp.

BillyButtfuck Tue 21-Mar-17 22:01:11

I'm not going to be sending him any photos, I don't want him having my name or photo.
Is KFC a franchise?

LilacSpatula Tue 21-Mar-17 22:02:35

Yep it's a franchise

WorraLiberty Tue 21-Mar-17 22:02:52

If it was a 'charming' message I would leave it.

But 'send pics' is far from charming as I doubt he's asking for a family holiday snap...

peukpokicuzo Tue 21-Mar-17 22:07:11

I think you should write to the manager - that is utterly inappropriate behaviour and not complaining sends the message that it is acceptable.

If you don't want to get him sacked then don't include details of the time of order or the person's identity - just ask them to ensure all their staff know how to behave and that female customers are not there for their pleasure.

BillyButtfuck Tue 21-Mar-17 22:12:39

Ok I'm writing a letter which I will hand deliver tomorrow.
How's this for a draft?

I am writing to express my concern in the conduct of a member of staff in your KFC branch this evening (21st March 2017).
I visited the drive thru by myself as my partner was home with our two young children.
All was fine until it came to payment, when the young man was very flirty and made me feel quite uncomfortable with his comments, including calling me gorgeous.
I paid for my food and left, thinking nothing more of it.
When I got home and my partner and I unpacked our dinner I found a note on a napkin (see attached photo) from the young man who served me, asking for me to send him pictures and giving details of his Instagram and Snapchat accounts.
This is extremely unprofessional and inappropriate and we are extremely upset.

First of all, had this note been given to a more vulnerable woman or man than myself, perhaps in an abusive or jealous relationship, the note alone could have put her in a dangerous position at home.
Secondly, I strongly object to being made to feel so uncomfortable and objectified. In this day and age it is totally unreasonable for any woman (or man) to be made to feel this way.

Further to this I am disgusted to think that your staff are putting non-food and non-regulated items in with people's food.

BillyButtfuck Tue 21-Mar-17 22:13:41

Have reported previous post as it has their address in blush

ImaLannister Tue 21-Mar-17 22:15:09

Defo report and complain to the manager. Send management an email if you don't want the confrontation of face to face. Same thing happened a while back, a dominos guy texting a customer after she ordered, and Asda delivery man texting a customer after dropping off the order, flirty texts. They were both suspended pending investigation and sacked.
Send pics? What does he think women are, an easy piece of meat? I mean as if you are going to send pics to a stranger.
I would report him, but that's up to you.

ImaLannister Tue 21-Mar-17 22:17:57

I approve of the letter 😀 aim glad you're reporting him. It's totally unacceptable behaviour.

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