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I have had suspicions that my friend's DP has been abusive but did not mention it to anyone in case I was way off the mark. She stopped coming out with friends, became very withdrawn and cancelling plans at the last minute. A few weeks ago she came out for a few drinks as her DP was at a stag do abroad. She admitted to me after quite a few drinks that he had been violent in the past. She went as far as to tell me that he had punched her in the face and pinned her against a wall by the throat. Her DP has a history of being violent when he was younger and regularly ended up in trouble for fighting in pubs but seemed to have turned over a new leaf. You could not meet a nicer man in a social setting - he's liked by almost everyone he meets.
Since then I have tried to speak to her about the violence and she is acting like it did not happen. She has told me she regrets telling me about it and that I should mind my own business. I am scared for her safety. She will not go to the police and will not speak to anyone.
Has anyone been in a situation like this? I don't have the slightest clue what protocol is in situations like these. Can I go on with my life and pretend this isn't happening? Should I report it and jepordise our friendship/her safety?
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user1490088549 · 21/03/2017 10:03
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