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AIBU to be so irritated by my office colleague

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CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 09:26:39

I haven't been getting much sleep recently, I'm really under the weather so that may be why I'm irritable. I normally get on well with the person I share an office with personally, but she is constantly muttering to herself, sniffing, clearing her throat, shuffling about, eating crisps, I can't concentrate and as I've been putting up with it for over a month I don't know what to say. I'm honestly on the verge of tears.

CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 09:27:40

Also sighing with her lips pursed, if that makes sense. I know this makes me an awful person but I can't stand it!

Uiscebeatha85 Tue 21-Mar-17 09:27:48

I had a colleague like this, I feel your pain. Earphones?

CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 09:28:39

I'm not really supposed to have earphones in, and i just have cheap apple ones, not noise cancelling, so I can still hear

Uiscebeatha85 Tue 21-Mar-17 09:32:22

Can you book a meeting room for a couple of hours quiet time? Break might do you good

CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 09:34:09

As soon as 5:30 rolled around yesterday I grabbed my laptop and took it to the library, which was absolute bliss, but I'm contracted to stay at my desk and I'm not senior enough to book rooms on my own behalf sadly

CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 09:37:27

She also taps her feet, drums her fingers and drinks Diet Coke then audibly belches

CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 09:37:43

I have to say this is cathartic even if mean

ClemDanfango Tue 21-Mar-17 09:43:35

YANBU to be irritated but apart from the benching (boak) she's not actually doing anything 'wrong' just sounds like everyday human noise which is amplified in a small space/area.
I think you're right about the issue being your trouble sleeping especially as she hasn't been annoying you up until this point, if you can address the sleep issue you may find her noise stops registering again.

NotAUserNumberSoNotATroll Tue 21-Mar-17 09:47:17

I have rage on your behalf - I hate having to listen to other people's "individual personality traits" someone stood behind me at work eating an apple for no apparent reason, I nearly punched him!

Can you practice some calming techniques at home and try to link them to a scent or particular music so you can use those at work to try and refocus?

CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 10:53:01

She has been irritating me all this time, it really never stops, I just haven't said anything. I'm sorry, it normally stops me working but today I feel like punching something or bursting into tears, I can't stand it

Jayfee Tue 21-Mar-17 10:56:23

perhaps some subtke comments might raise her awareness? when she sniffs say something like sounds like you have a cold etc?

CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 10:57:30

When she clears her threat over and over again noisily I offer her a cough sweet but I can't say "BLOODY WELL COUGH"

VladmirsPoutine Tue 21-Mar-17 10:59:32

Sorry if this is a silly question but why can't you just ask her to stop all this?
I genuinely think you should say something like "Hi Susan, your breathing, coughing, hawking up phlegm etc is really distracting and I'd like you to stop doing it."

phoenixtherabbit Tue 21-Mar-17 11:00:16

I understand your frustration.

One of my colleagues used to really annoy me when I was pregnant. I couldn't stomach anything before lunchtime but she would eat a full on fucking greasy burger most days at 10:30am 😷😷😷

CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 11:05:11

Vladimir it seems awfully rude and I don't want to offend her. Also it isn't really that she is doing something wrong.

VladmirsPoutine Tue 21-Mar-17 11:12:38

If you're just after a moan I can certainly empathise. It is rage inducing. But I do think you should say something particularly if you get on well. This is something you're going to have to endure for a long time - it's not as if you were sitting next to her on a train for one journey and could just grin and bear it, this is your work life. Say something woman!

Applebite Tue 21-Mar-17 11:15:44

Just wanted to sympathise. My office room mate is lovely, but for a tiny slim girl, she sneezes like a fucking 50 stone trucker. I have no idea where it comes from. But she does it explosively, out of the blue, about 5 times a day, and it gives me the rage.

I can't say anything, so getting it out here has helped... ahhhhhh!

YANBU to rant here. In fact, YWNBU to beat her to death with a hole punch, it's only fair.

CeciledeVolanges Tue 21-Mar-17 11:25:15

Thank you for the sympathy.

ShowMePotatoSalad Tue 21-Mar-17 16:33:09

Apple I wonder if I work in the office opposite you, because there's a woman who does this at my work, sneezes as loud as humanly possible, and it makes me jump out of my skin! So effing ANNOYING!!!

2410ang Tue 21-Mar-17 16:38:42

Apple sorry I have just laughed long and hard, we have the same in our office which is open plan and never ceases to amaze me how such a loud noise can come from such a small person grin

Cecil have you tried foam earplugs to block out the worst of it? They are a godsend in our environment when you just want to block it all out and concentrate. If she asks why you're wearing them it might make the honest conversation a bit easier?

IamFriedSpam Tue 21-Mar-17 16:40:13

Ohm god it's irritating me just reading about her! I do think you should say something politely for your own sanity. You could mention that you're easily distracted so you'd really appreciate it if she shuts the fuck up keeps the noise to a minimum.

Applebite Tue 21-Mar-17 18:15:40

Haha why is it that such slight people make such loud noises? I am built like a peasant who can pick potatoes in a strong gale and yet my sneezes are really quiet and delicate!!

Areyoufree Tue 21-Mar-17 18:17:43

Just spent five minutes trying to sigh with my lips pursed. My kids are highly annoyed, so maybe YANBU.

Applebite Tue 21-Mar-17 18:26:15

Isn't that just whistling?!

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