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Where I work, parents earn more than childless people... and it annoys me

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MustBookADentistAppointment Mon 20-Mar-17 19:36:19

So, where I work, parents receive an allowance because they have children. I don't have any children, but I would really like them. The argument is that people with children need the money because it's expensive having kids. Which I don't disagree with for a minute, but it pisses me off, nonetheless.

I'm single. Which means I have to pay all my rent/mortgage etc on my own, which is expensive. More expensive than if I lived with a partner. But I don't qualify for extra salary. Clearly, it's my choice to live alone, and I'm not blaming being single on my colleagues but hopefully you see what I mean. I'd also like a dog, but wouldn't get extra money to pay for dog daycare/walkers etc (I am NOT comparing having children to having a dog, just explaining that my lifestyle choices don't qualify for extra payments, like they would if I had children).

I can totally see the merit in an allowance for children, but am I being unreasonable to be pissed off about it? I'm slightly jealous of them, and am also paying through the nose for private therapy to try and manage/get over being alone and feeling sad about it - I just feel that their lifestyle is being subsidised, whereas mine isn't, even though it's kinda expensive too.

NapQueen Mon 20-Mar-17 19:37:18

Well your employer sounds incredibly generous and contrary to the norm.

Presumably you were aware of their policies when you decided to work there?

witsender Mon 20-Mar-17 19:37:19

That sounds bonkers.

Moanyoldcow Mon 20-Mar-17 19:37:39

What? I have never heard of anything like that... What sector do you work in?

AbbeyRoadCrossing Mon 20-Mar-17 19:37:48

Wow I've never heard of that before. Is it definitely extra salary and not childcare vouchers?

ArchNotImpudent Mon 20-Mar-17 19:38:08

I've never heard of such an allowance - is it common?

Familyof3or4 Mon 20-Mar-17 19:38:57

Sounds bizarre and unfair

ArchNotImpudent Mon 20-Mar-17 19:39:10

Are you in the UK, OP?

Moanyoldcow Mon 20-Mar-17 19:39:18

How much is it?

Sunnysky2016 Mon 20-Mar-17 19:39:55

Are you in the UK?

ReginaGeorgeinSheepsClothing Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:02

Are they takin taking on staff??

MustBookADentistAppointment Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:06

I actually wasn't aware of the extra payments for parents. It's definitely an extra payment rather than childcare vouchers.

And yes, my employers are great in almost every respect. They treat their employees very, very well. I don't really want to name my sector, it's fairly small and really outing!

JoJoSM2 Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:07

Really? Salary is for work not for personal circumstances. Are you sure that's the case? I think you could complain on the grounds of discrimination.

BoBaraMoMara Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:08

Hmmm. Very odd.

DJBaggySmalls Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:20

If the single persons pay is the baseline and enough to live on, then look for a more highly paid or second job.
I've never heard of this in the UK. We're not supposed to discuss a colleagues salary for one thing.

ReginaGeorgeinSheepsClothing Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:30

Taking- I can spell!!

TestingTestingWonTooFree Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:32

Weird and unfair.

thatstoast Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:35

Do you work in the past?

Parker231 Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:38

It's a form of discrimination - have you challenged it with the HR department?

Mammylamb Mon 20-Mar-17 19:40:59

That sounds nuts; and I am a parent! Are you in the U.K.?

MustBookADentistAppointment Mon 20-Mar-17 19:41:04

Oh, and yes I'm in the UK. And no, they rarely take on staff - we're paid very well and they're lovely to work for so no one ever leaves! grin

MadMags Mon 20-Mar-17 19:41:17

You're not talking about the state children's allowance are you?? If so, the thread is a bit misleading...

BToperator Mon 20-Mar-17 19:41:49

That is just bizarre! I'm not surprised you feel put out. I can't imagine why any employer would do that.

MadMags Mon 20-Mar-17 19:41:52

Sorry! X post.

PurpleDaisies Mon 20-Mar-17 19:41:58

It's discriminatory. You can't just pay someone more because they have a child.

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