About 6 months or so ago, my DP, her DS, and her DD moved into my house. Now, I've known from the start that her DD never really liked me. I'm not sure if it's because I'm a woman or because I'm less than approx. 5 years older than her (she's 20), but I have always tried to be civil and respectful. Her DS (who is 8) doesn't seem to have a problem with me.
Now, I'm not asking for much. But is it too much for me to want her to treat me as she would a regular housemate at the very least? To list a couple of her shenanigans:
- She drives my car without my permission.
- She steals my dresses/shoes/makeup and attributes it to the jolly old excuse of "I thought it was my mum's".
- She likes spreading rumours to my DP of me dating other people when I'm home late.
- I like my house being as close to "immaculate" as possible and she constantly invites large groups of friends over who obviously do not share that principle.
- She has a very vile name she uses when referring to me.
etc.
I don't feel like it's my place to tell her off or be in any way harsh to her. I've spoken to my DP countless times about this, and she just says that I should "bear with it for a few more years till she gets out of uni". The thing is, I'm not sure if it's just going to be a "few more years". DD seems very work-shy, having never had a single job in her life. She also doesn't even seem to be very interested in uni from looking at some of the grades she brings home + her attendance records.
Sappy but I love my DP more than anything else; don't think I've ever felt this connection to anyone before her. I just am starting to dislike her DD so very much. AIBU to feel that? Is this some normal thing that people feel when their parent starts dating someone else and that I should get over myself?