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JuicyGem5 Sun 19-Mar-17 17:54:26

So my dh has been asked to come on holiday with his ex and his dss, they are going to Morroco in August and have asked dh to come along as she doesn't want to drive in a foreign county. She has also asked dh to pay 50% of the cost. The hotel is one on the Atlas Mountains and is actually really nice and the arrangements would be like a family room with dh having his own bed but in a connecting room.

I have two problems with this
1. They will be eating out together and sharing a hotel room all be it connecting I don't trust her and I'm insecure as she is a very beautiful women.
2. It is a three week holiday in the summer holidays takes up all of dh's holiday which means he doesn't get to see my dc or his dc with me in the summer break.
3. We were planning to do something with the kids in Cornwall or Devon for a week but this cannot be affordable for us now.
4. I can't see why she can't pay for private transfers into Marrakech or the airport.
5 it's not like her dss is young he is 16.

Aibu to think dh should refuse this and instead pay for his ds and our children and my children to pay for a holiday for all of us as this seems fair.

I think it is very selfish and I think dh should say no to it but I get why he wants to do it.

hideehigh Sun 19-Mar-17 17:55:32

Wow. It would be a hell no from me. YANBU

ImperialBlether Sun 19-Mar-17 17:56:45

So basically she wants to get back with him for three weeks?

Crumbs1 Sun 19-Mar-17 17:57:11

Absolutely not. If she wants him to do that she should have remained married to him!

AtrociousCircumstance Sun 19-Mar-17 17:57:30

Christ almighty. No!

sonlypuppyfat Sun 19-Mar-17 17:57:44

Bloody hell I wouldn't be keen on this. He's going on holiday with his beautiful ex wife and living as a family for a weekconfused

JuicyGem5 Sun 19-Mar-17 17:57:59

No she said she doesn't want to drive in a foreign country and that dh should come and do the driving. He offered to drive and take his son on holiday.

Aeroflotgirl Sun 19-Mar-17 17:58:18

This would be a big fat no from me, he is her ex, finished. Your dh is married to you now, and holidays are taken with you all as a family. Hell would freeze over if this happens, why is he even entertaining that, she should be saying noway to her.

Pallisers Sun 19-Mar-17 17:58:20

Does he want to go???? Bananas.

Gallavich Sun 19-Mar-17 17:59:27

Taxis exist hmm
She's being very unreasonable and I can't see how this is sensible for the kid! Confusing or what?

Aeroflotgirl Sun 19-Mar-17 17:59:49

No, they she cannot go on holiday then, if she cant drive, or she has to find other means. She should be paying for all of the holiday if she expects him there to drive, cheeky fecker. I would put my foot down so hard on this one.

shitgibbon Sun 19-Mar-17 18:00:11

This would be a big 'no' from me UNLESS you can go with them.

sonlypuppyfat Sun 19-Mar-17 18:00:42

Why doesn't his son go on holiday with you lot

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Sun 19-Mar-17 18:00:44

Let her hire an escort for a foreign holiday and you and dh take the dc away!!
Unless he wants a three week shagathon with his ex??

Wando1986 Sun 19-Mar-17 18:01:10

She's kidding herself either way if she wants to drive in Morroco. Would rather sell my watch for a camel than rent any vehicle at all over there. Also unless she is within the confines of a tourist area she will need to be with him 24/7. They still don't take kindly to women being on their own outside of the touristy parts.

I was followed around a local supermarket and almost grabbed by the security guards until my Husband caught up with me from the next aisle.

Godawful place and the souks are no better these days than a crappy carboot in Burscough.

lorelairoryemily Sun 19-Mar-17 18:01:19

Holy mother of god that's outrageous. He can't actually be considering going? If he is/does I think that'll tell you everything you need to know. That is really unbelievable

Butterymuffin Sun 19-Mar-17 18:01:53

No, sorry, he can spend quality time with his son without having to go on the holiday of his ex's choice and chauffeur her around. If she doesn't want to drive abroad, she'll have to work out an alternative. Not his problem. He should possibly contribute towards the costs of his son going on holiday, but he shouldn't himself be going on the holiday as you've described it.

OnionKnight Sun 19-Mar-17 18:02:59

Hell no,

JuicyGem5 Sun 19-Mar-17 18:02:59

Obviously culture as well is a reason as to why they are also taking dh.

KinkyAfro Sun 19-Mar-17 18:03:08

If he were my husband and went on this holiday, the marriage would be over for me. Does he want to go?

WinterRose92 Sun 19-Mar-17 18:03:34

No way, that is not fair. YANBU!

JuicyGem5 Sun 19-Mar-17 18:03:46

She said to dh how much dss wants to go on holiday with her.

HerOtherHalf Sun 19-Mar-17 18:04:34

Seriously? I don't know where to start. I wouldn't dream of going on holiday with an ex and I wouldn't expect my current partner to be here when i got back if i did. The excuse is nonsense as well. You don't need to drive when you go on holiday and if you don't like driving abroad you pick one of the countless holidays where a car isn't required. If this goes ahead what about next year and the year after that? The whole thing is mind boggling.

JuicyGem5 Sun 19-Mar-17 18:04:41

He wants to go because he wants to spend time with his son he is a Disney dad like that he feels very guilty.

Aeroflotgirl Sun 19-Mar-17 18:04:57

Well she has to arrange that by herself with her son, not involve your husband. They are not a family unit anymore.

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