Really need an unbiased opinion on this one...
BIL has a 'newish' gf, they have been together since January and moved BIL moved in with her and her daughter after 3 weeks. They constantly argue about who's paying for what, BIL doesn't think it is his responsibility to pay for gf's child and that she should pay for the child not him but he does so, To stop arguments.Gf works bank shifts in hospital but has not accepted one since she met BIL (BIL is always constantly moaning that she does nothing round the house in terms of cleaning and cooking whilst he goes out to work to support himself, her and the child. Child's dad isn't on the scene). we all went out together for Sunday lunch today to celebrate my promotion at work,they arrived 2.5hrs late due to arguements and then made us (me,bf, PIL) uncomfortable by arguing about everything including whether to have ice in the drink . GF then mentioned how stressful it is having a child and working.... and BIL asked if myself and bf would have the child whilst they went to away raving for the weekend. When I said that it is something that I wouldn't feel comfortable doing as I have met the child on a handful of occasions BIL and gf got very arsey. I explained that if We knew the child and the child knew us and our DS better then it wouldn't be an issue and I also don't think it is fair to send child to an environment when the child doesn't know the environment or the people in it. Gf made a remake that it it was BIL biological child then there would be no issue.
So am I AIBU to stick to my guns about this even though it will cause family problems?
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Lilachopesandwishes · 19/03/2017 16:41
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