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To be annoyed at school over this?

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OnALosingSpree Sat 18-Mar-17 09:40:42

Primary school had a bake sale for St Patrick's day. DD (8) saw some really elaborate cupcakes last month and asked if we could make them. I ended up buying guide a lot of things to make them (lots more than the 50p per cake they sell them for wink ) but she really wanted to make them for her friends to buy.

We made them and they looked awesome. She was so excited taking them in and the teachers were really impressed. All the kids were telling DD they were definitely buying guide one of her cakes! She was really proud.

So there was an assembly and parent thing in the morning. I couldn't attend so exH went.

My cakes were given to the parents! And teachers! They all ate them at the 'gathering' after the assembly.

AIBU to be annoyed that I spent about 4 hours making cakes for DDs friends for them to be eaten by teachers and parents and the kids not get a chance to have one?!

Also I sent the cakes in 2 plastic cake carriers and they lost the lid! angry

mynameismelon Sat 18-Mar-17 09:42:27

I would be annoyed, especially about the cake carrier lid - have a word!

However if it makes you feel any better, they probably gave your cakes to the parents and teachers because they sound better than the others. Still wrong though.

MiddleClassProblem Sat 18-Mar-17 09:42:48

That I said bloody annoying, particularly as they lost the lid too. I hope her friends get another chance to sample the cakes soon

angeldiver Sat 18-Mar-17 09:43:07

My cake never makes it out of the office. It doesn't bother me, the teachers pay to eat it, so the chosen charity benefits.
I am quite flattered blush

chickenowner Sat 18-Mar-17 09:44:03

They chose hers because they looked the best!

The lid will turn up.

There are more important things to get cross about.

ThePinkOcelot Sat 18-Mar-17 09:46:11

I would take it as a compliment tbh.

Riderontheswarm Sat 18-Mar-17 09:46:34

Perhaps you should have put a note on the boxes telling the school that only your daughter's friend were allowed to buy them with a list of their names. Everyone could do this. Would simplify things.

OnALosingSpree Sat 18-Mar-17 09:48:19

I know there's more important things but the whole time she was baking she was talking about how she had told her friends about the design and they all wanted one and how she was going to buy one for her nana.

Then they got ate by all the adults. They were really child orientated cakes. Really colourful and fun.

Janek Sat 18-Mar-17 09:56:45

I hope that they were paid for and that the money went to wherever it was supposed to go. Otherwise that is really not on.

Chloe84 Sat 18-Mar-17 09:58:42

YANBU. Did your DH hand over cakes to teacher? Could you or DH call the teacher to find out what happened?

Fucking greedy guts. That's theft of charity goods.

They should donate 50p for each cupcake.

KoalaDownUnder Sat 18-Mar-17 10:01:29

Did they pay for them?!

Still a bit shit, really.

Littlecaf Sat 18-Mar-17 10:01:29

Yes YABU. It's a school not GBBO. Be pleased that they appreciated your effort.

Snap8TheCat Sat 18-Mar-17 10:03:00

What does buying guide mean? You wrote it twice and I'm confused!

Chloe84 Sat 18-Mar-17 10:05:18


The cakes were requested for a CHARITY bake sale. Not to be scoffed for free by greedy guts. Why should OP and her DD have gone to all that effort to fill teachers' bellies?

BeingATwatItsABingThing Sat 18-Mar-17 10:06:11

If the parents and teachers paid for them, I agree it's annoying, but not much you can do about it. You can't reserve cakes for friends. They could have easily been bought by other children. Would you have been annoyed then?

EweAreHere Sat 18-Mar-17 10:15:50

We would never do this in our school. Never.

I would complain and say that you hope that extra money was donated by the teachers and parents who felt so entitled to steal your daughter's charity cupcakes.

holidaysaregreat Sat 18-Mar-17 10:16:07

I am sure the teachers will have paid for them. I always pay for cakes in school if it's for a charity sale.
They could easily have been bought be some older kids or something.
Take it as a compliment!

Witchend Sat 18-Mar-17 10:22:02

My dc would have been extra proud to have their cakes used like that. Are you sure they didn't ask her first?

Our dc's cake sales always ended up with heaps left, so it will just mean different cakes left at the end, so I don't expect it effected money raised.

NotYoda Sat 18-Mar-17 10:23:30

How do you know they went to the parents and teachers?

Crumbs1 Sat 18-Mar-17 10:24:41

No wonder our children lack resilience if we teach them it's ok to get worked up and angry about such a trivial thing. Cakes were a fundraiser- the school used them to make funds.

ElBandito Sat 18-Mar-17 10:26:36

NotYoda because her ex told her?

NotYoda Sat 18-Mar-17 10:36:24


Oh yeah. In my defence I am very very tired. Unable to read properly

NotYoda Sat 18-Mar-17 10:37:05

I agree with Crumbs1

I'd put a positive spin on this

NotYoda Sat 18-Mar-17 10:39:50

And yeah. Fucking greedy teachers. What have they ever done for us? Wankers hmm

Chloe84 Sat 18-Mar-17 10:44:51

It sounds like someone forgot to cater the teacher/parent 'gathering'
and thought 'goody' free cakes!'

It's not about teachers, it's about the fact the cakes were meant for a bake sale for everyone, including kids!

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