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Janiston Fri 17-Mar-17 21:31:02

I have no major issues. No one is dying. Finally not working after years of hating my job. Have some money saved. Husband allegedly looking for job but hmmmmm not really. Great house. Great kids but serious eyes issues with both. Can't lose weight I gained in job I hated. But nothing earth shattering is happening to me to really complain about. And yet. I'm somehow fed up/ pissed off/ waiting for something wonderful to happen. Knowing all the while this is life. Need a friggin good kick up the arse. Does anyone else have these feelings of " is this it" ????

dudsville Fri 17-Mar-17 21:32:57

This is your time op. Do something that grabs your interest in it!

Janiston Fri 17-Mar-17 21:33:54

Have literally no idea what that is !!!!!

Blossomdeary Fri 17-Mar-17 21:34:18

I'll just get my boots on..........! smile

Janiston Fri 17-Mar-17 21:35:08

Oh crap what the hell have I said wrong ? Woe is me ?

Sammysquiz Fri 17-Mar-17 21:37:53

Boots are to kick you up the arse with as requested!

Zafodbeeblbrox10 Fri 17-Mar-17 21:39:54

Feel happy that you have escaped the job you hate, and are solvent enough for your break not to create financial problems.
Now is the time to reevaluate your life, wants, and needs. Step back, look around you, and find what you really want in life.

Janiston Fri 17-Mar-17 21:39:59

Bless you ! Thanks !

KanyesVest Fri 17-Mar-17 21:41:05

I feel exactly the same. I'm bored and boring...

NotStoppedAllDay Fri 17-Mar-17 21:45:10

Use the time to rebuild yourself?

Join an outdoor boot camp and get fit and lose the weight?

Janiston Fri 17-Mar-17 21:48:29

I'm bored too. More an ageing thing for me. I so vividly recall my mum at the same age and cringing at her and wishing she could be grey and sensible and her saying " but I feel 30". I feel no age - just utterly adrift. And quite frequently mad at the world. Every story about kids being abused, trump, the useless things my kids school does when it would take 5 more seconds to do it better. Mid 40's malaise might be a better title

KanyesVest Fri 17-Mar-17 22:07:54

I've got late mid 30s malaise so. To be fair, there are lots of things I am interested in, but they seem too niche to be able to connect with others in real life. I remember my mum at my age being entirely glamourous and just having her shit together. A useful side effect of dd (7) becoming much more aware of the world is I've had to turn off the radio and listen to a lot less news as it just upsets me.

Zafodbeeblbrox10 Fri 17-Mar-17 22:10:33

;) no worries.. And I thought life begins at 4ish!

Zafodbeeblbrox10 Fri 17-Mar-17 22:10:51

40 lol

Janiston Fri 17-Mar-17 23:26:21

4ish was pretty good - that's truly when you think you are indestructible

Arcadia Fri 17-Mar-17 23:40:29

I am bored too. Decent job, nice house, settled relationship but bit boring, child needing me a bit less physically now ... friends all seem to be hitting mini midlife crises and everyone a bit miserable due to politics/cuts/society not seeming to give a shit about each other.

I need a hobby!

Arcadia Fri 17-Mar-17 23:41:12

I am 42. Apparently satisfaction in life is at low point now til mid 40s then gradually increases!

Zafodbeeblbrox10 Fri 17-Mar-17 23:55:39

Were here now, for better or worse. You are what you believe you are, don't shoehorn yourself onto a box, if that's not you then make a change in your life.. (and ignore the fifty shades phenomenon!)

dudsville Sat 18-Mar-17 10:15:28

Op, I used to not know what made my life zing, so much so that I filled it with the wrong things and tried to fill it with even more wrong things that thankfully didn't work out. I took some time out and worked on exactly this, the killer zapping malaise, tried a variety of stuff and what I've been left with is a great way to "spend my days". It led me to move house and change my lifestyle, luckily partner was also totally up for this. I no longer feel that malaise. No one else can tell you what you will really like to do with your life, but I suggest trying a huge range of things because you never know what it's going to be, a part of mine was leaving a busy city. That was scary but turned out to be a fabulous decision. There were many others but that was a big one. Have a think about your values and ethics and ways in which you could live more closely in accordance with them. A small one of mine was to not be so busy (and so much of it unpleasant!). I literally had to book meeting up with friends into my diary - I don't like that. I now socialise less, with fewer people (all of whom mean the world to me so seeing them is uplifting or funny or just nice) and I have time and mental space so that spontaneous things can happen. Put your heart into finding these things for yourself OP!

Kinraddie Sat 18-Mar-17 10:19:40

Read the thread - "46 and bored; what's your new adventure". It should inspire you.

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