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Why is he incapable of having one drink after work?

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countingdown2gin · 17/03/2017 21:04

Long story short, I'm pregnant and tired and suffering from a cold, I know woe is me SadDS also has said cold and is feeling the effects badly today.

DH been lining up his drink after work (he works in a city a 40 min train ride away) by texting at 3 saying he's really stressed. Called at 5.15 while DS was mid meltdown, winged at how hard his day was and asked if he could go for a drink. I said yep fine will you be back for tea which he said yes to.

It's now 4 hours later. And I've battled a poorly DS to bed in an epic hour long fight. He can't even be bothered to text or try and rush home.

Is he the only person who can't just have one drink and come home?????

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haveacupoftea · 17/03/2017 21:10

Nope. My DP used to do this and it drove me fucking nuts. I don't think they ever intend to just have one either.

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Gingerbreadmam · 17/03/2017 21:12

no he's not. my dp is the same. always ends up in a state and kicking off so i totally sympathise.

you're pregnant ill and tired. have an early night and speak to him tomorrow. he will be in no fit state tonite.

Flowers

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Gingerbreadmam · 17/03/2017 21:13

my dp and his friend actually text each other should we go for 1 (5). like it's a joke.

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icy121 · 17/03/2017 21:14

To be fair I'm like this with after work drinks. Also central London, and actually if you go for one drink/30 mins you feel almost rude. It's better not to go at all than to go for one and then leave. Poor timing all round, but I've def been there and been on the receiving end of a pissed off OH

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StillDrivingMeBonkers · 17/03/2017 21:17

No one goes out for one drink.

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Emphasise · 17/03/2017 21:19

I can't have one either. Either come straight home or stay till closing.

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countingdown2gin · 17/03/2017 21:20

I know it's never gonna be one drink but now he won't be back before 10.30. It gets on my nerves as well because it's my Friday night I spend waiting in for him and I never have that option to be late home because I always pick DS up from childcare as I work part time.

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Wolfiefan · 17/03/2017 21:21

Does he do this often? It would annoy me no end.

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Zafodbeeblbrox10 · 17/03/2017 21:21

One drink often leads to another in a social setting, causing decreased coherence and a warm fuzzy feeling. As pp said it's often better not going for after work drinks at all.. esp with a pg oh

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Emphasise · 17/03/2017 21:24

I don't think it's unreasonable occasionally to stay out after work but you need to occasionally be able to do it too.

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countingdown2gin · 17/03/2017 21:25

wolfie not as much as he used to as we have moved out a bit further from his work. But he still meets friends a at least once a week or will have a weekend day of drinking so I don't think I'm BU when I get irritated!

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Wolfiefan · 17/03/2017 21:27

Do you get the same time off? Do you have a good balance of family time? If not then I would be pissed off!

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poppy2021 · 17/03/2017 21:27

Go to bed and lock him out

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Rioja123 · 17/03/2017 21:29

Make sure you have a night out tomorrow then!

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ArchNotImpudent · 17/03/2017 21:30

He's not the only one - I'm the same. That's why I rarely go for after work drinks these days - it means writing the next day off with a hangover Sad.

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countingdown2gin · 17/03/2017 21:30

wolfie no not really. He works away a lot or does long hours so it's not often an option. I do get the odd weekend night with mummy friends but it's probably once a night.

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Sunshineandlaughter · 17/03/2017 21:31

That's pretty disrespectful of him. I'd be mad as hell especially if it happens a lot.

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countingdown2gin · 17/03/2017 21:32

arch that's exactly it, he will be mildly hungover tomorrow now which adds to the annoyance.


I've put myself to bed with the iPad and shit the bedroom door. Hopefully he'll get the hint and piss off go to the spare room.

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rollonthesummer · 17/03/2017 21:35

Come now, don't go shitting any doors-you'll only have to clear it all up Grin

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Janeofalltrades1 · 17/03/2017 21:36

I would've locked him out!

Hope you and your DS feel better soon. Flowers

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countingdown2gin · 17/03/2017 21:36

Haha that's a good typo. And the highlight of my evening!

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Wolfiefan · 17/03/2017 21:36

So point out it is unfair and book a night away or evening out.
Wake him up bright and early tomorrow am. Have an early hair appointment!

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Trainspotting1984 · 17/03/2017 21:39

I do this. no one goes for one drink! Locking out is a massive over reaction, i would think you quite mental if you did it to me (and just bang until you let me in- where on earth would you expect me to go?!Hmm)

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disappearingfish · 17/03/2017 21:47

Yep. Agree with others. Up bright and early and head out for the morning leaving him with the toddler.

Then sit him down and tell him to stop being a massive arsehole.

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countingdown2gin · 17/03/2017 21:47

No I wouldn't lock him out but we have a perfectly good spare bed he can go to while i starfish in our bed!!

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