Aibu incapable dh?

[mumbot1423]

Ok so please ladies I need some help... my dh works over 2hrs away he's lucky enough to work from home sometimes. We have Ds 8 and dd 10months. When dh is working from home he rarely does the school run dd is a good sleeper so I normally leave them both in bed (dds cot is in with us) he gets up when he's ready and starts work. Or if he's in his office gets up and travels to work. I do everything at home when he's home I also most of the time cook for him or he doesn't eat hes one of those can't cook won't cooks. When he is working he gets home around 7.30-8 and continues to work in the garden so I mostly do the bedtime routine unless I ask him to help! So today he's arrived home given no help with bedtime and has got arsey with me about not making him dinner at 9pm?! I'm eating healthy currently trying to get back in shape after dd! He's a fussy eater and I've already done ds and dds dinner neither of which he'd eat and would want chips instead of my baked chicken and veg? AIBU to think he's being plain lazy never cooking for himself? Or should I make him dinner at the time when I'm trying to avoid eating after 5pm?!

[QueenArseClangers]

He's a knob. You're not a fucking maid, he also needs to prioritise looking after his kids instead of gardening when he's been away all day.

How terribly unattractive it is to see a man who can't see to basic needs like cooking.

[rollonthesummer]

What's he doing in the garden at 7.30pm?

[Pinkheart5915]

Adults that say they can't cook annoy me, I mean seriously everyone can cook chips, pizza, jacket potatoes, eggs on toast etc

Adults that are fussy eaters annoy me too, if it's an allergy then that's completely different obviously but just fussy I've no time for

My dh leaves home 7am and gets in between 5-9pm depending on what his done that day
He gets the babies up and gives them breakfast while I shower
Dh cooks 4 nights a week
Dh does story and bedtime with the babies on the days he is home early enough to do so and I certainly don't ask him to Help as he wants to see his dc!

I couldn't imagine being with someone that thinks I am there to cook and wait on them and someone that doesn't see his children all day and can't even put them to bed

Don't cook for him, he can not eat if he wishes

[SparkleTwinkleGoldGlitter]

How stupid for an adult an claim they can't cook, well follow a recipe then it's literally just doing what the instructions say ffs! Or put a pizza in the oven, make a quick stir fry it is idiot proof.

I certainly wouldn't be cooking different meals for his lazy arse, eat what you and the dc eat or he can cook his own or not eat.

Can't believe he doesn't see his dc all day and doesn't want to put them to bed you actually have to ask him. Wouldn't it be nice for daddy to put them to bed so they see there Father?

Me & dh both work full time again now as I've recently gone back after maternity leave but when I was at home dh still cooked 3 nights a week and done equal night feeds etc with our dd.

Do not cook for him, if he refuses to eat because you won't cook then so be it. His not a child and your not his mother

[mumbot1423]

I'm so glad to see you ladies agreeing with me! I've literally had enough of his nonsense! He works in the garden on the laptop he smokes so can't do indoors! Ive gone to bed and not cooked and think I'm going to start doing more often putting myself first! Thanks ladies

[newventurermum]

Offer him bread and tell him to eat that or starve to death, then. And enjoy your chicken and vegs