Two recent situations, one at work, a new colleague is very dismissive, rude, she talks down to me. So I said in a calm flat tone, no hysteria, no swearing or dramatics "I really don't like the way you talk to me, I find it really demeaning and belittling, so I'd like you to stop please". I'm now in Coventry, 6 weeks down the line. It is to the point of ridiculousness.
Second situation, longstanding friends of 40+ years wish us (and two other couples) to go on holiday with them, and they won't let up, its the subject of conversation every time we go out. Ourselves and the other two couples are happy enough for weekends away, as we regularly have but we simple know we all have large personalities and in close confinement there would possibly be a falling out.
I've tried every angle of no, cant afford it, aren't in a position to do it this year, another time, not something we are considering, childcare issues and so forth. In short our youngest has HFA, is still at school, its a pivotal GCSE year, I am not prepared to leave him to go on a sunshine jolly watching other people get drunk (I don't drink) and I said "Look, we wont be going away, we have child to consider" only to be told older siblings could look after him whilst we all decamp to Spain and I said "That wont be happening and I'm not leaving child and I'm not taking parenting advice either!". They now have the huff and have removed themselves from our social circle for the time being.
AIBU to think the standard MN advice of "no" just doesn't work?!
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n reality, if you stand up for yourself, people just get the hump?
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StillDrivingMeBonkers · 16/03/2017 13:01
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