My ex has always been really stingy with money. Always going from job to job and one of the main reasons I left the relationship was I felt I was carrying him through life and basically looking after him. It felt like there were two children to look after!
His Mum is lovely. She buys clothes for my Son and presents at Christmas and his Birthday. This amounts to about £20 a month in total I would say. She chooses to do it and I've never asked her.
My ex is on minimum wage and is very very angry that I've gone to CSA to force him to pay -a pitiful- £35 a week. He smokes regularly and runs a car so can afford to pay. He just doesn't want to. He does give money if I ask for it but no more than £20 a week and considers it a favour. That's why I felt I needed to apply for child maintenance. I wasn't struggling to pay my bills while he was off with his mates drinking.
His parents help him a lot too.
He truly believes he should not have to pay as I get benefits for our Son and income support. He says he doesn't have £35 a week and it's unfair to expect him to as his Mum buys things for our Son. So that can count as maintenance.
He has argued with CSA for weeks now calling them up all the time trying to say he has our Son three nights a week, he bought me a £200 washing machine -not true-, he asked them to close the case as I had agreed to a family based arrangement. Thankfully they have seen past all his lies and desperate attempts to pay the £35.
I feel extremely sad about this as I genuinely thought he was a nice guy but his true colours have come out now and I'm sad our Son has such an idiot for a Dad.
The way I see it is, it's only £35 a week. AIBU to wish he would just pay it? That he would stop lying to CSA, stop giving it to me at £5 a week and me having to chase him for it? I know his Mum pays for things but that's her choice. AIBU to think that doesn't mean he shouldn't have to pay maintenance and the fact he's on minimum wage is irrelevant?
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My ex thinks he shouldn't have to pay child maintenance because his Mum buys our Son things
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user1489509816 · 14/03/2017 16:56
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