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46 and bored. What's your new adventure?

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WalkingSense Tue 14-Mar-17 09:24:50

I just keep on hearing about people that are busy and overworked. Not me. I am bored. A 12 yo son, with the usual problems, but doing fine overall. I work freelance, and it's going well at the moment. An okay-ish relationship with dp. Health ok. I loved my twenties, there was always a new adventure to embark on and so much I wanted! Now I don't seem to want much anymore. I wrote a book 2 years ago, and that gave an amazing sense of achievement. I went on an 6 months course to be a better speaker (1 day a month) and that was great for my social life, and gave me a great sense of achievement. Now I can't think of anything I would like to do next? What do you do? What's your big adventure? What have you started learning after 40?

wizzywig Tue 14-Mar-17 09:26:01

Went to uni and started doing bits of voluntary work

SootSprite Tue 14-Mar-17 09:28:22

I'm doing a Masters degree. I'm 44.

RosesShouldBeInTins Tue 14-Mar-17 09:31:29

Your course to be a better speaker sounds interesting, I'd like to do that I think! Can you give me any details?!

My career seems to be going quite well at the moment, but I do know what you mean...I have been trying to identify some 'bucket list' goals but couldn't come up with many. I'm not sure if that says I am content and I should be pleased or if I have a worrying lack of ambition and aspiration!

ThisAintALoveSong Tue 14-Mar-17 09:38:48

What a brilliant question you've asked 😁

What I would do is buy a yacht and travel... if only I had the time, money and means. Not likely for the foreseeable though 🙁

WalkingSense Tue 14-Mar-17 09:55:52

RosesShouldBeInTins, I have that, this empty bucket list. Am I a boring person? Midlife crisis?

The course is Inspiring Speakers with Ginger Training. I couldn't recommend it more. Profound, life changing, very good, and full of interesting people.

Goneforgood72 Tue 14-Mar-17 09:59:47

Great question! I'm trying to improve my French (since I live in France I have a real push to do this!). I'd really like to make 'me' the next adventure: I've spent 10 years devoted to my family, supporting DH and looking after children as well as doing a lot of voluntary work, but I have totally neglected myself. I want to lose weight, start exercising regularly, take my health seriously, etc etc and feel better about myself. I know I'm a great mum / wife / daughter / volunteer but it's all for other people IYKWIM. Those responsibilities aren't going to vanish, but I need to stop letting them distract me from the fact that I a neglecting my own health / self-esteem /etc. I'm 46 too BTW.

Or we might just chuck it all in and move to Singapore for a few years!

stevie69 Tue 14-Mar-17 09:59:54

I'll be doing my Masters next year. I'll be 51 smile

YesILikeItToo Tue 14-Mar-17 10:06:18

Hobbies. I've started hobbies. I recommend both of them wholeheartedly as new adventures.

Orienteering. A really fun look at decision making under pressure. All levels of fitness and ability are amply catered for by a great network of clubs in my area. Could develop into quite serious real adventures if you're that way inclined.

Drawing. Try to draw some stuff, then check out the urban sketching movement. Putting yourself out on a street corner for a couple of hours while you try to deal something that requires intense concentration is pretty adventureous.

JakeBallardswife Tue 14-Mar-17 10:07:23

New job, start MA. New walking targets. Wild swims, decent holidays. New car!

RosesShouldBeInTins Tue 14-Mar-17 10:18:17

Thanks for the course info!

GeorgiePeachie Tue 14-Mar-17 10:19:36

Ceroc classes.

SaucyJack Tue 14-Mar-17 10:20:31

We want to climb Snowdon as a family this year.

Ben Nevis after that I suppose :-)

Somerville Tue 14-Mar-17 10:24:14

I'm learning a new language, at 40. It will mean DH and I can move to follow the job opportunities if our industry doesn't cope well with Brexit, but it's also fun.
Oh, and I'm pregnant, but that's much frigging harder at 40 than I've ever found it before, and right this minute I really don't recommend it.

KavvLar Tue 14-Mar-17 10:31:56

Slightly off track as I realise you are searching for inspiration, not necessarily to be quizzed. But I do think your situation is relevant and it may help to find out a little more about you. Close your eyes and think. If you weren't bored, if your life was full and enriching, what would it look like? Where would you be, doing what, with whom? Then you can marry that with your current situation and see what's possible.

For example, if you have a larger budget you could throw yourself into planning exciting vacations for the school holidays with DS and DP. You might wish to look into fostering if you have a massive house and resources, yearn for more children or to give something back, or it might be your worst nightmare.

For me, it's languages music and sewing where I wish I was able to invest more time. All things I was good at when younger or tried and enjoyed but they fell by the wayside.

I also did a personal coaching course awhile ago which I found incredibly rewarding. It taught what I'd term life coaching techniques and questions, and how to apply them to yourself.

Hope you find something to inspire you OP.

ayahuasca Tue 14-Mar-17 10:43:59

I'm 46 and undergoing some mild mid-life crises. Working through them on basis that getting right up to the edge of my comfort zone and then all the way over that is The Way.

Cocopopsrule Tue 14-Mar-17 11:14:03

I love this question. Thanks so much OP. I am doing some free open university courses . Trying to improve my health. Thinking about how to be involved in my community. My kid is younger though so less time.

Howlongtillbedtime Tue 14-Mar-17 11:20:53

saucyjack we did that last year . Felt like a great achievement.

Shame the last half hour we were in a cloud grin

I could do with an adventure. Everything feels like it is plodding along ok but no great ooomph to it.

thedcbrokemybank Tue 14-Mar-17 11:31:04

I am 39 but am generally a restless soul. My youngest dc starts school in September so I sort of see that as the next part of my life having more or less been at home for 11 years.
I started a Msc in September which I love. I have also just taken on quite a large voluntary role which I hope will stand me in good stead should I want to go back to work. Dh and I are also tentatively looking at building an amazing house. It is very early stages but could be quite exciting.
However your thread has inspired me to come up with some mini adventures for us as a family over the next year. Things like wild camping, having a surf lesson etc.

ThisAintALoveSong Tue 14-Mar-17 12:20:52

To the people on this thread who have started their masters degrees... is it that you completed your bachelors degree years ago and have had a break from education in between? Or have you done your bachelors recently and are starting your masters degrees in succession?

The reason I ask is because I have been out of formal education for a few years and am wondering how easy it is to get back into it.

ThisAintALoveSong Tue 14-Mar-17 12:21:14

Sorry for thread hijack

finagler Tue 14-Mar-17 12:22:12

I bought a horse confused

hellokittymania Tue 14-Mar-17 12:24:18

I run a charity just started working in the Philippines a few months ago so I'm still learning the ropes's here and getting used to the environment and what we need to do . I am also trying to learn Tagalog .

KarmaNoMore Tue 14-Mar-17 12:25:14

Empty bucket list here as well. At the moment I am starting to think I am really ready for another "eat, pray, love" soul searching holiday on my very own with a sketchbook in my hand.

Need to wait for DS to fly the best before I can do it though...

pinkbraces Tue 14-Mar-17 12:26:12

Haven't got time to read now so place marking

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