Odd argument to have, considering my DH has never been known for his tidying, but he keeps tidying our baby's toys and books etc. upstairs when we use them everyday, and it's driving me mad.
Our baby is 11 weeks old, and just starting to show an interest in toys. He feeds a lot so he and I are quite often on the sofa in one spot when we're home, and I like to have his things around me so that when he is alert we can pick a few bits up to have a look at while we have a 'chat'. I keep going to find a soft book or toy or something and they've gone, moved to the nursery! This tidying from a man who leaves his own shoes in the middle of the floor or wherever he takes them off (sometimes NEXT to the shoe rack...), and has a permanent floordrobe.
Ultimately, I'll buy a storage box and keep DS' bits next to my chair, so it's not a big deal, but we have argued about this tonight, which feels ridiculous.
AIBU to think that we have a baby now, we can't have no evidence of him in our living room?! I think I need things to hand, and when DH puts everything in the nursery it makes me think he imagines I'm spending my whole maternity leave in that one small room 
So as not to dripfeed, I am still annoyed about the many many times he has left the room with the remote controls out of my reach when I have been breastfeeding. And he has also many times left the newspaper strewn across the seats. It's like a mental block that he can't see that I spend half my time stuck in one place (baby feeding or sleeping on me), and other times holding a baby before I sit down (annoying to have to move all his stuff one-handed).
I'm sure all of this is standard new parent niggles. But god it's annoying. AIB hormonal? Or do I have a point?
AIBU?
DH moving baby's things
StrugglingFirstTimeMum · 13/03/2017 20:27
You so have a point.
I'd take his stuff, maybe his phone or book, something he was looking forward to doing when sitting down in the living room and move it. Tidy it away. I'm petty though 
He's being utterly thoughtless. I'd be really angry, being pinned under a baby is simultaneously the most lovely and most boring feeling at times.
Is he house proud in that he thinks visitors will judge some normal clutter? If so tell him people are visiting a home not a museum 
When BF you absolutely need tv remote, phone, refreshments etc next to you for your comfort & convenience.
You also need (in my opinion!) a living room change mat, all nappy changing things, spare outfit, bibs, toys, Muslim box for convenience.
We keep a small toyboz in the living room with the above for all toys that he uses now and the above. It's near his playmat & easy to use and tidy away.
The rest of his stuff is in his nursery but it's nice to have some basic things to hand to save going up & down stairs all day.
He's happy to leave his things lying around though!
My husband had a really helpful habit of bringing me a drink when I was breastfeeding. Twins. He'd hand the glass to me 
. Utter fool.
He got a withering glare and was asked relatively politely to put it on the table next to me. Sometimes they need a little push in the right direction to understand they're not actually being the helpful!
Mine did this, so I eventually just retaliated. Asking and shouting had zero effect.
His stuff started mysteriously disappearing. Best one was sneaking his towel away when he was in the shower. That one actually got the message through. 'oh I'm so so sorry, I was just tidying it. Did you need it to hand?' no, sorry, I can't get one for you, I'm feeding the baby....what, you've run out of loo roll too?'
You're not the first to say that, Struggling
And in case anybody feels that I'm harsh, don't. He's an ex and was a total wanker.
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