So my Partner of 2 years has told me since the beginning that he doesn't like his female work colleague and that she's overtly sexual in the work place and really irritating.
He said he used to be a bit of a flirt before he met me and used to flirt with her when we were on a break (for three months) because she's 'passably attractive' but there was absolutely no interest on his part. He would flirt with anyone before being in a relationship (this is true).
He now claims that she took him the wrong way and was hitting on him at work so he told her he had a girlfriend so she knew where he stood and wouldn't be interested. This was When we were on a break too.
He made sure to mention me so she knew he was taken.
He has always given me the impression he's a bit creeped out by her and finds her disturbingly sexual and flirty. This does seem true as the few times we were all together at work functions he seemed very unsure/annoyed by her and she did seem to flirt with him (she told him he look nice in his shirt and touched his hair)!
He only mentioned her briefly and now she doesn't work with him anymore (hasn't for 9 months) he never mentions her.
I went onto my phone tonight and realised he has messaged her asking her how she is getting on. She replied saying really good and how is he. He's not replied.
Prior to that he messaged her 4 months ago asking her how she was and again she replied and he didn't. He's done this on my phone. Thinking he'd deleted the messages but they showed up when I backed up my WhatsApp.
I know it's only a text message, but the way he went on about her you would think she was this batshit slut who was desperate to have him and he needed to stay well away.
He's hardly going to initiate conversation twice with her in 10 months if he's genuinely that creeped out with her. She's the only woman he's messaged.
There's something about all this that doesn't sit quite right with me.
I Don't know if I'm being daft but my gut instinct is saying he might like her.
He has no social media accounts so this is the only way he can message her. I don't believe for a second they're having an affair or anything. That seems to be the only conversation between them. But it seems a bit off to me.
At the very least he's looking for some attention from her, which he shouldn't need.
AIBU? Or am I being ridiculous?
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Partner messaging his work colleague he supposedly dislikes
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Sarahmai · 12/03/2017 22:28
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