Dh's friend's mum has recently died, funeral later this week. Dh just dropped into conversation that he is planning to go to it to support his friend-normally I wouldn't bat an eyelid however he's currently on a fixed term contract with work, finishes at the end of this month, works several hundred miles away and has to drive down every week (we're Yorkshire, job is not far out of London) which obviously costs quite a lot in petrol.
We've got hardly any savings as we used them when he was out of work before taking this contract, coupled with us literally having less than £400 in bank to last us until his next (and last) payday.
When he told me he was planning to drive home for the funeral my immediate reaction in my head was wtf surely we can't afford that?! Surely he doesn't need to drive the 3.5 hours back home to go to the service and then the 3.5 hours back to be a good friend...purely for the fact we can't afford it and the money he would spend on the petrol getting there and back would be better spent elsewhere. I could and would attend the funeral in his place to represent him (I'm also friends with his friend, albeit to a lesser extent) but am I being unreasonable thinking this?
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Genuinely not sure if I am being unreasonable about this.
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AchingBack · 12/03/2017 12:50
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