DP and me want to buy our first flat, together. I have savings enough to pay for the deposit and DP wants to start looking now before the summer rush. He doesn't have much in savings (less than 5000) and I have also had to pay off for him a credit card debt from a few years ago which he did not tell me about until it became too obvious to hide. He does not seem to have a problem with it being this unbalanced, but really I'd be buying him half a flat!
AIBU to say I don't want to buy somewhere together unless we are contributing to it equally? If we use my money it will be ALL my savings (apart from pension). He gets whiny and defensive when I suggest he could sell some of his bikes to add to his share. Last night had a row where I said maybe I would just buy it, and he could live with me but my name on the deeds. Him "that's not what a marriage is about, we should be sharing everything" Yeah, like I shared his debts
I get very stressed about money and it took me a long time to save up all this so I want a reality check!
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To say we're not buying a flat until we're equal financially?
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Teatimebear · 12/03/2017 11:22
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