About loud music at 2am

[halfofme]

I am staying with dm for a couple of weeks in between moving house and have my 2 dc with me- 4 and 20months. I am staying in Dms spare room which is the party wall between her house and the semi detached which she shares with. Her neighbours were having a party last night which was very loud and still going on at 2.15am. The music was being accompanied by a lot of drunk singing- I was okay about this till about midnight - I get people have fun.
At 2.15 my toddler has also been woken up so I put my coat on and popped over to ask very politely if they'd turn down the music at this time. The man of the couple rolled his eyes at me and said because I don't live there and it's not bothering my mum, who actually owns it, then he wasn't turning it down. I explained that me and ds were sharing the room that attaches to their house and as he was wide awake and crying I'd really appreciate if he could turn it down a bit so I could get him and me back to sleep. He refused on the basis it's not my house (my mums room does not share a wall and she sleeps like a log so she didn't hear!) he refused and they carried on till 4am - poor ds was awake all this time as it was super loud.
Was I unreasonable to ask, seeing as I don't live there permanently?

[MsJamieFraser]

No you weren't, he's just an arse.

[Starlighter]

That's awful! Who cares who lives where, you were there! And a poor little boy was kept awake by it - how could they not feel guilty about that?! 4am is ridiculous. What does your dm say? Surely it bothers her that her daughter and grandchild were kept awake till 4am?!

[VivienneWestwoodsKnickers]

Not at all unreasonable. And now, you and the family get up, make a much noise as possible, crank up some very very loud music.... And go out for brunch.

[halfofme]

My dm is now up and very upset for ds, he has a horrible cold anyway and could have done with the sleep not being up for 2 hours in the middle of the night.
I realise they were drunk and having a good time but I think 2am in a semi-detached is antisocial whoever is there.
I think they have quite a few parties and my mums never complained as she is on the other side of the house and sleeps super heavily so doesn't wake and therefore doesn't mind. But I did :-(

[VivienneWestwoodsKnickers]

But it wasn't 2am, it was 4am. They are utter piss takers.

[RB68]

Get the chainsaw out or hedge trimmers or something and when they complain explain you don't live there so they are not your concern

Next time just call the police.

[Crunchymum]

I'd do all my noisy chores this AM.

Rude bastards.

[wifeyhun]

They are arseholes, make loads of noise now.

[Spadequeen]

I'd be making loads of noise right now if I were you.

[Applebite]

Up to midnight is fine IMO. After that is selfish.

Might make you smile: when we had DD, we'd been home from the hospital for about a week, when there was a knock at the door. It was a woman we didn't know - she said she was from the flat on the other side of ours (think central London mansion block with separate entrances, so we'd never seen her before; we only see the people in our half!). She said:

"Have you just had a baby? Congratulations. Can you stop it crying at night please?"

DD was 1 WEEK OLD. If that woman knew how to stop a newborn from crying, she'd be a millionaire! It really upset me and made me v anxious when DD woke up that we were disturbing everyone. So DP used to cuddle her standing right next to the wall when she cried for a minute or two. It didn't make any difference to the noise levels of course, but it did cheer me up!

[halfofme]

Aw applebite im sorry to hear that what a ridiculous thing for her to have done! I hope your DD woke her up for many months to come