I'm a very tidy person and DH adopts a far more relaxed attitude around the house including hanging clothes on doors, stuffing clothes into drawers rather than folding them, waiting a day before washing dishes when it's his turn, leaving crumbs on surfaces, toothpaste out on the side, shoes not put away, not clearing up hairs properly after shaving (list goes on) and generally not doing very much without being prompted/'nagged' by me.
I feel like every day I am fighting a loosing battle to keep the place clean and tidy. We have had endless conversations about the above but very little changes. He assures me he will try to improve or claims he does intend to tidy but likes to do things in his own time rather than when I 'demand' he does them. Really though he does not see that he is messy and thinks his behaviour is normal and I am the nagging control freak!
Other than this issue our relationship is great, we get on well (when I'm not shouting about the mess!!!), he makes me laugh and he's without a doubt my best friend. He commutes and works full time but does do all our cooking both at the weekend and during the week. He will hoover when asked and 'tidy up' when prompted however even that is not done correctly or with care. When he washes dishes they are still greasy, wet washing is scrunched onto the washing line, doesn't hoover thoroughly etc etc, which leads to me redoing everything!!
We would have a perfect relationship without this hugely frustrating issue and it is really dragging me down. I'm tired of nagging!! Please tell me I'm not alone
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Would anyone else put up with this untidiness?!
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user1488488748 · 11/03/2017 22:13
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