Ds, fund raising and the yummy mummy

[Isthiscorrect]

Ok so this is an AIBU on behalf of DS.

He is a third year student in central London. He is fund raising for Breast a Cancer Now. Yesterday he was at a central London tube station with a fund raising bucket, dressed in a charity t shirt, and underneath the t shirt and pink feather boa he was wearing a denim shirt and chinos.

Over the course of the two hours he raised over £200. I'm pleased, he is pleased and the charity is pleased. So why did the yummy mummy abuse him with foul language and end with telling him to get a job?

He is genuinely asking the question given no one else at all was quite so rude. He isnt bothered by the langauge, he isnt a precious snowflake, he genuinely would like suggestions as to why she might have been so rude. He fund raises regularly and has never been abused like this. Thanks in advance.

[Auspiciouspanda]

What is a 'yummy mummy'?

[NerrSnerr]

He was abused because some people are dicks. What makes you describe her as a 'yummy mummy'? Why not just woman?

[listsandbudgets]

Probably best forgotten. Maybe she'd had a bad day and he was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. Maybe she thought he was begging under the guise of charitable collecting. Maybe she was just a rude, stupid cow who dosen't deserve another second of worrying about.

Whatever it was well done to your son. I hope one horrible experience dosen't put him off helping others

[Birdsbeesandtrees]

Because some people just aren't very nice ?

[2014newme]

What yummy mummy?
How the hell would anyone on mumsnet know what it a random woman shouted at your son? Are you hoping she's on here and will reply?
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[Only1scoop]

Who was the 'yummy mummy'
Was this his description of her?

[FATEdestiny]

What is the relevance of the rude persons:

• gender status?
• fertility status?
• "yumminess"?

Sometimes people are rude and annoying to charity collectors.

Sometimes charity collectors are rude and annoying.

[peanington]

Because some people are rude I guess? But none of us have a clue what happened!

[PuppyMonkey]

Calling her "the yummy mummy" makes this sound a bit like "the yeti" or "the abominable snowman."

[TheOnlyLivingToyInNewYork]

he genuinely would like suggestions as to why she might have been so rude

He's 3rd year in college and hasn't yet worked out that some people are just rude? Oh dear.

[LoisWilkersonsLastNerve]

he genuinely would like suggestions as to why she might have been so rude

I don't know

[TheBogQueen]

Some people are just rude

I've been abused on the phone for offering to send a doctor to someone's home.

People in the emergency services get abuse all the time. Ditto retail.

It's just part of life's rich tapestry

[LoisWilkersonsLastNerve]

She sounds like an arse.

[RJnomore1]

Perhaps she thought he was a paid chugger?

[JellyWitch]

Maybe he was the 10th bucket wafter getting under foot that day and it was the final straw

But sure what her reproductive status or tastiness has to do with her manners though. :)

[Ratonastick]

Because maybe she finds the fetishisation of beast cancer difficult? Sorry but I find the "jolly japes" in the tube to raise money hard work.

My dearest friend is currently dying of stage 4 breast cancer. She is leaving a 10 year old daughter who almost certainly shares the gene. She is so desperately ill and a shadow of the vibrant brilliant woman she was just a couple of years ago. I can hardly think of the situation without tears when I am not with her as it is the only way to remain in control when we're together.
Frankly, I put my head down and scuttle past breast cancer bucket shakers as I can't deal with it. Don't get me wrong, the fundraising is important and I give large sums to cancer research but I find the bouncy fun approach hard going.

[Imamouseduh]

If this was at Hyde Park Corner station then the fundraisers were being very loud and quite obnoxious, so maybe they deserved it.

[HelenaGWells]

he genuinely would like suggestions as to why she might have been so rude

I would suggest because

he was at a central London tube station with a fund raising bucket

Some people don't like to have charity buckets pushed at them whilst they are just trying to go about their day. Many people have had problems with rude, nasty and arrogant "chuggers" trying to force others to donate, making people feel guilty even shouting abuse at them etc. Some as a result are rude to all charity collectors. It doesn't make it right but it's a fact.

If he's done collecting for charity a few times and he's never had anyone be rude to him then I'd say he's done very well and is presumably a decent kid who doesn't harrass people. At the end of the day the basics of it are summed up by FATE when she said Sometimes people are rude and annoying to charity collectors. Sometimes charity collectors are rude and annoying.

[Foureyesarebetterthantwo]

Why would we know? She might have been drunk, upset, had mental health problems, all kinds of reasons she might abuse a stranger. I don't think we would know though, if you stand in public there's always an outside chance a member of the public might abuse you for no reason.

Not nice for him, but nothing to do with other 'mummies'.

[wigglesrock]

Did he approach her? Did he do the friendly "banter" routine? I've been very curt to chuggers in the street, I have no time for that kind of annoying "surely you have a minute to spare?" shite.

[Pagwatch]

What?

[TinfoilHattie]

What a weird thread.

It's like me posting "Why is my neighbour wearing a green shirt today? I genuinely don't understand it?"

Or is this just a stealth boast so we all reply saying how amazing your PFB is?

[Pagwatch]

Yesterday DH was at work and a group came in wanting to book a table. One of the group was very rude to him. Can you tell me why?

[wigglesrock]

and I've also been in the same very sad situation as ratonastick , it's heartbreaking enough dealing with relatives and friends who are dying without having people in fancy dress jollying you along.