AIBU to suggest we the feminists of MN take a slight brake from the gender equality bill and discuss the discrimination against fathers taking the " traditional maternal" role and how they are treated in the workplace.
I am slightly enraged (fucking fuming actually) that DP has asked for Monday morning off to take DS for his preschool, injections, his boss (female!) said "cant mum take care of that"
For context I am the bread winner, I consult so don't get time off work and as I am self employed anytime off means, no money.
"we are a modern family" (translated to a fair shared parental responsibility one) and I am really getting fed up of the snide remarks and responses from employers and just people in general!
Myself and my partner, when I got pregnant worked for the same company, I was running a multi million pound project being a subject matter expert, and was irreplaceable to the project really, he was doing a job that you could train another person quite easily to do In a few weeks. (From his own admission too)
We discussed shared leave with HR, I would get 90% pay he would get the statutory minimum. Bullshit really, I took the time off obviously ( it only 6 months as the pressure to return was horrible and I ended up with stress and PND, being hooked up to ECGs at 27 isn't fun!) and I know it cost them more in missed deadlines and project failures than what it would of don't to give DP a fair paternity wage.
I honestly think the gender pay gap starts to close with making it normal for fathers to have the option to take paternity at the same rate as their female counterparts on maternity.
As well as this we need a cultural shift on how fathers, as I do think there are many, who want to do more and take more time off for their children but would be viewed the same as the "women" who do it, so front want to risk it n their careers,
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sharktoothcushion · 10/03/2017 21:38
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