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MakeItRainOnMe Fri 10-Mar-17 15:58:18


I'm so sick of being poor, I can't even save money to put in to a pension let alone for new and much needed clothes.

I'm (almost) 25 with a 1 year old DD studying at uni and if it wasn't for DD then I would work in the evenings and on weekends but with no family nearby I have no options.

Plus I plan to move back to London when I finish my degree and as there is no room at my mums I think that this will be the best way to survive in London.

Anyone got any suggestions? Help or advice?


lavenderandrose Fri 10-Mar-17 16:00:37

Well, it's not as lucrative as you may think, for starters.

Typically, you will sign up with an agency and be allocated a driver. Sometimes more than one girl will be with a driver. The agency will promote you. You will get around £50 an hour, but that's an hour if you're working. If you only get one call all night so be it.

You may arrive and have the man say you aren't what he wants.

Billie Piper it ain't.

Redglitter Fri 10-Mar-17 16:02:23

Why plan to move to London when it's so expensive when you've no money? I can't see the logic there

thecolonelbumminganugget Fri 10-Mar-17 16:03:36

Does your uni have a careers service? They would be able to discuss a whole range of options with you in the short and long term. Speak to someone at your uni, I found when I was at uni there was a massive amount of support available for all manner of things, you just needed to know it was there.

MakeItRainOnMe Fri 10-Mar-17 16:03:47

I'm not looking to join an agency. I know of a few websites I can advertise on. Some women are charging £200/hr.

QuiteLikely5 Fri 10-Mar-17 16:04:14

She said escort not prostitution! There is a difference (I think)

If you're just accompanying guys out to dinner and excursions then it's not the worst way to make money but if it's the latter then I just couldn't!!

pizzakat Fri 10-Mar-17 16:04:46

Have you thought about webcam work instead? I used to do it and made a decent amount, can work as and when it suits you too, plus takes away a lot of the risk

MakeItRainOnMe Fri 10-Mar-17 16:05:05

Why plan to move to London when it's so expensive when you've no money? I can't see the logic there

I'm a lone parent. My family and friends live in London.

MakeItRainOnMe Fri 10-Mar-17 16:06:14

Pizzakat o have considered it but I don't know much about it. Should probably do my research.

lavenderandrose Fri 10-Mar-17 16:07:13

There isn't, Quite ...

Truthfully then OP you will struggle, unless you actually are Belle de Jour. London is awash with women desperate for money. The grim truth is that it is a different scene to even ten years ago where a blow job and flash of tits could get you £100 +. You may get some bookings, you may not. You are making yourself very vulnerable and if you plan to entertain in your home, making your child vulnerable too.

pizzakat Fri 10-Mar-17 16:09:13

Rain I've got a young daughter now too and seriously considering going back, I loved that I could switch it on and off whenever. Feel free to PM me if you want any advice and good luck x

SignOnTheWindow Fri 10-Mar-17 16:10:51

She said escort not prostitution! There is a difference (I think)

Technically, but not in reality. In reality 'escort' almost invariably means sex.

I had a v. middle-class friend who did this to supplement her student loan. It fucked her up a bit and was very risky, even with a driver.

BrieAndChilli Fri 10-Mar-17 16:11:27

The flaw in your plan is you say you have no childcare for evening and weekend work - when do you actually intended on doing the escorting and who will be looking after your child then????!!!

EatSpamAmandaLamb Fri 10-Mar-17 16:11:55

My friend does webcam and phone work (mostly known surprisingly) through a website, she does it in the evenings when her DC is asleep. I she said her identity is protected (no idea how) and her income fluctuates but she came make up to £2k a month working 3 hours a night a few nights a week.

ChasedByBees Fri 10-Mar-17 16:15:11

I think as a career option, it would have greater personal risk to you than other types of work and you have a 1 year old totally dependent on you. I'd look at other options.

Pacha11 Fri 10-Mar-17 16:15:20

Who will stay with the child?

Escort is a fancy word for prostitute.

Nothing wrong in working this if you are happy to do it. Beware of the risks that come with the job.

I would do it for survival (roof and food) but the welfare system in the UK is so good, I don't think anyone is forced to do it. This is why I don't give money to beggars either.

ChicRock Fri 10-Mar-17 16:15:58

London is full of desperately skint women who thought escorting would be easy money.

Are you young, slim, incredibly beautiful, and willing to take it up the arse? Or are you into alternative/fetish stuff? If so you might do ok. If not, don't bother.

ComtesseDeSpair Fri 10-Mar-17 16:21:02

I've worked with sex workers in a professional capacity and it really isn't as financially lucrative as it's made out to be. London is full of - mostly Eastern European - women working in prostitution, all trying to undercut each other's prices.

And ChicRock has been very blunt but is correct: it isn't glamourous and most punters aren't looking for an easy hour of gentle lovemaking at a pace you're comfortable with. They pay the money, they want the goods.

WorraLiberty Fri 10-Mar-17 16:23:11

I think it would help you to decide if you called it what it really is, which is 'prostitution'.

Some will argue that there's a difference, but if you're unwilling to have sex with your clients, I can't imagine you will do much business if any at all. I imagine most will at least want that option, even if they don't take you up on it.

Also, given how many stunningly beautiful prostitutes there are on the internet, you'll also have to consider whether you feel you can 'compete' with them on a business level.

FlyingElbows Fri 10-Mar-17 16:23:51

"I think that this will be the best way to survive in London" where the streets are paved with gold, yeah? Op call it what it is. It's prostitution whichever way you want to glitter it.

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 10-Mar-17 16:26:55

I used to read the 'bad dates' folder the women kept to warn each other about men who assaulted them. This was street prostitution but bear in mind that sex work is very dangerous. Even if you call it escorting.

highinthesky Fri 10-Mar-17 16:28:03

OP, are you trolling?

If not, you need a dose of self-respect. Think of the example you'd be setting to DD (it's not a good one). Earn a living in a decent way ffs.

MakeItRainOnMe Fri 10-Mar-17 16:28:43

I was hoping to work a few afternoons during the week when DD is at nursery whilst I'm at uni. When I return to London I can get my mum to look after DD whilst o work nights/weekends.

chicrock are you serious?. I'm not willing to have anal sex. That's not what I pictured in my head.

MakeItRainOnMe Fri 10-Mar-17 16:29:14

It looks like web camming might be the better option.

Owlzes Fri 10-Mar-17 16:29:44

I have never done this, but I have a friend who worked as an escort. She didn't make a fortune, but was relatively comfortable doing it, but did find it messed up her capacity for relationships while she was doing it, had a couple of quite scary experiences (it's the high risk end of sex work, for sure) and has found it hung over her for longer than she wanted after she stopped doing it - there are careers where you could lose your job for ever having worked as an escort if it comes out, because reputation matters.

I think if you're desperate for money, I'd look at other options first - dancing, or cam work or phone sex all seem a lot safer from what I know.

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