Work forgot my birthday

[Skyrabbit]

I realise this is completely a non-problem!

None of my work colleagues have remembered it's my birthday.

The standard 'thing' here on a birthday is that everyone signs a joint card, and there's a whip round, and everybody goes for lunch/has cake.

Nobody has remembered. Nobody. I've been here 6 years ffs. All the birthdays are in the company diary.

I'm not a special snowflake who wanted a massive hoopla for 'My Special Day' - just a little disappointed - AIBU??

[empirerecordsrocked]

Yes! It's work.

[QueenInsomnia]

Ah how disappointing for you. Especially since you have made the effort for other colleagues birthdays.

Maybe stay optimistic, and consider they are saving it for the end of the work day as a surprise!?

If not then come Monday I'd make them feel guilty, by discreetly stating you celebrated your birthday at the weekend - as you were working Friday on your actual birthday!

Everyone deserves unlimited cake on their birthday!

Happy birthday

[nicknamehelp]

Try your whole family acting like your bday just a normal day!

[IamFriedSpam]

YANBU. That's rubbish given that they do it for everyone's birthday it's totally crap they missed yours!

[OffRoader]

Just think of all the money you will save not having to contribute to birthday collections anymore

But yes, that's really rubbish of them.

[OhTheRoses]

I think it happens. They'll feel awful when they realise. Happy birthday

[luckylucky24]

If its the "done thing" then no you are not being unreasonable. Have you not mentioned your birthday at all this week?

I would start a conversation about what everyone is doing over the weekend and mention that you are celebrating your birthday. See what happens.

[TheStoic]

That must feel a bit shit. :-(

No excuse, but perhaps everyone assumed someone else would be doing the organising?

They may be a bit mortified when they realise.

[Redglitter]

Next time you're asked for money for a birthday collection just say 'oh i thought we'd stopped those' I'd mention loudly about your birthday plans later

[ShowMeWhatYouGot]

I had this too, I'm sure they are not being malicious, I'm sure they will feel terrible once they realize x

[Skyrabbit]

nickname that's awful!!! I hope they were suitably guilty once/if they realised?!

I'm just peeved as they're also planning a hoopla for someone else's semi-significant birthday - whole office off for the afternoon/pub/meal/presents etc etc . Mine is a semi-significant one too, but no-one even realised. It's a small office - only 10 of us, which makes it worse.

Ironically I've been feeling fairly isolated at work anyway - this cements it I guess!! I think I'm 'the weird one'

[Graceful1]

Who normally organises everything, do you take it in turns or is it one specific person ?. (Maybe they dont like you and this is deliberate)<br /> <br /> Have you told anyone ?<br /> <br /> Im guessing lunch has been missed considering the time. I would have a shit fit tbh.

[KoalaDownUnder]

God, I always wish work would forget my birthday!

YANBU, though.

[Sung]

That does sound disappointing, if it is the norm.

Happy Birthday!

However, I much prefer the system we have at work where on our birthdays we bring in the cake/treats (if we wish). I think it would all get a bit much having to sign cards and have a whip round for everyone's birthday (unless it was a very special one). There is 20 of us though, maybe it would be ok with 10 but even then...

I would take in cake tomorrow for everyone and start a new tradition (if you want to).

[UrethaFranklin]

What the heck is a semi-significant birthday? Surely it is either significant or it isn't.

Like others have said - have you actually mentioned it? If it was my birthday today my colleagues would have heard about it at least once every day this week

Anyway, happy birthday!!

[burnoutbabe]

we have 75 and we do cards that whole office signs

very occasionally someone gets overlooked, maybe they just joined and birthday not in calendar but we either whip one round very quick OR start an email birthday thread for everyone to send them a happy gif.

[QueenMortificado]

I'd just mention it. "Thanks for my card you fuckers."

[DickToPhone]

"What the heck is a semi-significant birthday? Surely it is either significant or it isn't."

25?

[BipBippadotta]

Happy birthday!

[Talkietalk]

We do a card here and birthday person. If my birthday was forgotten I wouldn't get them cake and have a nice one at home. I always get the day off. I worked once on the day and hated it.

[Talkietalk]

should say birthday person gets cake

[MrsGB2225]

In offices I've worked in the birthday person brings in cakes for everyone. Next year a couple of days before your birthday say you plan on bringing some in for your birthday of anyone had any requests.

[damnedgrubble]

It's not nice but it's work and you aren't there to celebrate birthdays. Nobody at work knows when it is my birthday, I don't see the point - I'm there to do a job and nothing else.

[OneFlewOverTheDodosNest]

I'd say significant birthdays are children's age birthdays then either 18 or 21 (choose one), 50 and 65.

A semi significant birthday would be 30, 40, 60 for me.

[ThreeFish]

I'm sure you do feel left out.
I would have to say something, and I wouldn't be contributing to others anymore.
Send an email to everyone.