Work forgot my birthday

(121 Posts)
Skyrabbit Fri 10-Mar-17 13:06:47

I realise this is completely a non-problem!

None of my work colleagues have remembered it's my birthday.

The standard 'thing' here on a birthday is that everyone signs a joint card, and there's a whip round, and everybody goes for lunch/has cake.

Nobody has remembered. Nobody. I've been here 6 years ffs. All the birthdays are in the company diary.

I'm not a special snowflake who wanted a massive hoopla for 'My Special Day' - just a little disappointed - AIBU??

empirerecordsrocked Fri 10-Mar-17 13:12:20

Yes! It's work.

QueenInsomnia Fri 10-Mar-17 13:12:53

Ah how disappointing for you. Especially since you have made the effort for other colleagues birthdays.

Maybe stay optimistic, and consider they are saving it for the end of the work day as a surprise!?

If not then come Monday I'd make them feel guilty, by discreetly stating you celebrated your birthday at the weekend - as you were working Friday on your actual birthday!

Everyone deserves unlimited cake on their birthday!

Happy birthday flowers

nicknamehelp Fri 10-Mar-17 13:13:48

Try your whole family acting like your bday just a normal day!

IamFriedSpam Fri 10-Mar-17 13:14:36

YANBU. That's rubbish given that they do it for everyone's birthday it's totally crap they missed yours!

OffRoader Fri 10-Mar-17 13:15:52

Just think of all the money you will save not having to contribute to birthday collections anymore wink

But yes, that's really rubbish of them.

OhTheRoses Fri 10-Mar-17 13:16:15

I think it happens. They'll feel awful when they realise. Happy birthdayflowers

luckylucky24 Fri 10-Mar-17 13:18:10

If its the "done thing" then no you are not being unreasonable. Have you not mentioned your birthday at all this week?

I would start a conversation about what everyone is doing over the weekend and mention that you are celebrating your birthday. See what happens.

TheStoic Fri 10-Mar-17 13:18:49

That must feel a bit shit. :-(

No excuse, but perhaps everyone assumed someone else would be doing the organising?

They may be a bit mortified when they realise.

Redglitter Fri 10-Mar-17 13:20:06

Next time you're asked for money for a birthday collection just say 'oh i thought we'd stopped those' I'd mention loudly about your birthday plans later smile

ShowMeWhatYouGot Fri 10-Mar-17 13:20:40

I had this too, I'm sure they are not being malicious, I'm sure they will feel terrible once they realize x

Skyrabbit Fri 10-Mar-17 13:20:44

nickname that's awful!!! I hope they were suitably guilty once/if they realised?!

I'm just peeved as they're also planning a hoopla for someone else's semi-significant birthday - whole office off for the afternoon/pub/meal/presents etc etc . Mine is a semi-significant one too, but no-one even realised. It's a small office - only 10 of us, which makes it worse.

Ironically I've been feeling fairly isolated at work anyway - this cements it I guess!! I think I'm 'the weird one'

Graceful1 Fri 10-Mar-17 13:21:11

Who normally organises everything, do you take it in turns or is it one specific person ?. (Maybe they don`t like you and this is deliberate)

Have you told anyone ?

I`m guessing lunch has been missed considering the time. I would have a shit fit tbh.

KoalaDownUnder Fri 10-Mar-17 13:25:20

God, I always wish work would forget my birthday!

YANBU, though. flowerscake

Sung Fri 10-Mar-17 13:30:31

That does sound disappointing, if it is the norm.

Happy Birthday! cake flowers

However, I much prefer the system we have at work where on our birthdays we bring in the cake/treats (if we wish). I think it would all get a bit much having to sign cards and have a whip round for everyone's birthday (unless it was a very special one). There is 20 of us though, maybe it would be ok with 10 but even then...

I would take in cake tomorrow for everyone and start a new tradition (if you want to).

UrethaFranklin Fri 10-Mar-17 13:33:58

What the heck is a semi-significant birthday? Surely it is either significant or it isn't.

Like others have said - have you actually mentioned it? If it was my birthday today my colleagues would have heard about it at least once every day this week grin

Anyway, happy birthday!! cakeflowerswine

burnoutbabe Fri 10-Mar-17 13:34:16

we have 75 and we do cards that whole office signs

very occasionally someone gets overlooked, maybe they just joined and birthday not in calendar but we either whip one round very quick OR start an email birthday thread for everyone to send them a happy gif.

QueenMortificado Fri 10-Mar-17 13:35:40

I'd just mention it. "Thanks for my card you fuckers."

<insert less sweary word>

DickToPhone Fri 10-Mar-17 13:39:32

"What the heck is a semi-significant birthday? Surely it is either significant or it isn't."

25?

BipBippadotta Fri 10-Mar-17 13:39:57

Happy birthday! cake flowers

Talkietalk Fri 10-Mar-17 13:41:24

We do a card here and birthday person. If my birthday was forgotten I wouldn't get them cake and have a nice one at home. I always get the day off. I worked once on the day and hated it.

Talkietalk Fri 10-Mar-17 13:41:45

should say birthday person gets cake

MrsGB2225 Fri 10-Mar-17 13:45:32

In offices I've worked in the birthday person brings in cakes for everyone. Next year a couple of days before your birthday say you plan on bringing some in for your birthday of anyone had any requests.

damnedgrubble Fri 10-Mar-17 13:45:57

It's not nice but it's work and you aren't there to celebrate birthdays. Nobody at work knows when it is my birthday, I don't see the point - I'm there to do a job and nothing else.

OneFlewOverTheDodosNest Fri 10-Mar-17 13:46:47

I'd say significant birthdays are children's age birthdays then either 18 or 21 (choose one), 50 and 65.

A semi significant birthday would be 30, 40, 60 for me.

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